When your dreams die (but you don't do)

Sorrow, they say, come in five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But whoever has experienced losses knows that it is not linear. The reality is far away.

If you rotate through these emotions, some are stuck for some longer than others, until you finally (expected) reach a delicate acceptance.

But what happens after acceptance?

Here I propose a sixth phase: Let it go.

we've all been there. You set your scenic spots on a dream, put your heart and soul in pushing it, only to slip it again and again through your fingers.

The path of a career may be filled with rejection, or the right relationship that changes you or even a deep desired life that seems to be out of reach. Every step is met forward, so that you are emotionally dried and question everything.

I had a similar experience recently. The initial sting of despair was so intense that felt like twenty minutes, I passed through every stage of sorrow - refusal, anger, bargaining with God, a pit of depression, and finally, a raw acceptance of the situation. But acceptance was not an end for me; It was just the beginning.

Now I am about being cruelly honest with myself. Therefore, at the moment of my not-a-collect reflection, I thought by myself: maybe it's time to leave.

"You compete with a small voice in my head very easily".

It was an familiar rebellion, one of my perceived character defects, apparently. But this time, it instigated a different idea: "How many times I have to knock, before I let things happen in the end?"

For the longest a long time, I continued to match the perseverance, it does not matter. But that night, I realized that perhaps firmness was not just a quality that I had.

Perhaps this is what I was - a strange.

The society likes to brand the word - "Quitor", such as it is a badge of shame. But what if it is not about weakness, but about self-protection? Prefer your emotional good and just move forward?

This, my friend, is the essence of letting it go.

Let's get one thing directly: Although it is not the same as quitting. Dena is waving the white flag and surrendering to defeat, while going to the other side, self-compassion can be a powerful function. A way to say, "Hey, it's not working for me, and that's fine."

However, this is not wrong with acceptance. Rather, letting go comes with a sense of peace, an belief that this chapter is closed, making way for the other.

There may be only a separate plan in the universe. Think about it to pive or redirect your energy.

So how do you know when it's time to leave? This is a question that you can only answer.

Are you constantly feeling dry? Does the idea of advancing this dream fill you with fear instead of excitement? Perhaps it starts feeling like a core compared to the source of passion?

If so, it may be the time to revaluate.

Although you should know this: Going is not reduced to the efforts invested or learned. This also does not mean that your experiences were meaningless. no way! These experiences gave you shape, taught you flexibility, and made your determination. Therefore, releasing that dream, goal, or even that person is not the same to give up your aspirations. You are just making space for something more.

Now when we understand the clear difference between going and giving, how do we navigate the Merky Water to let go?

Here are some suggestions that I find especially useful:

1. Journal your emotions

It is not about pretending pain with grace. This is about accepting your feelings and processing them actively. Jernling helps.

Do not write a general statement like "I feel disappointed". Dig Deep: Especially about this dream, I am hurting? What feelings come out when I think of going to go? Are there any underlying fear holding me back?

Bring that trusted old notepad out. And hey, if writing is not your thing, then there is always a voice memo option on your phone. But if you accidentally send a emotional recession to your boss, do not blame me.

2. Practice gratitude

I know that it may look like a page from the "Aspire-to-Inpire" Bestseller, but listen to me. Pay attention to blessings in your life, even amidst disappointment. Start by listing three things, for which you are grateful, big or small; Whether it is delicious food last night, laughter of a loved one, or even your own flexibility.

Gratitude can move your perspective, remind you how far you have come. Give credit to yourself - you have achieved a lot, and still have a lot.

3. Look for support

to talk. Yes, talk with people, not anyone - reliable friends and family. Surround yourself with positive people who can offer encouragement and hearing ear.

Sometimes, you need to vent just to close.

4. Explore new possibilities

What other passions or interests do you have? now is the time. Go for it! Who knows? Let us go to that dead-end job can take you to your true calling as a revolutionary actress.

On one hand, it is difficult to let Go go. This is a dance between accepting your pain and holding a slever of hope. But sometimes, this is the most free option that you can make. The courage to face this reality feels that things do not work as employed and leave the one who does not serve you anymore.

And by accepting this sixth phase and embracing its importance, you can navigate losses and despair with more peace by paving the way for an exciting new beginnings.

Remember, letting it go is not a sign of weakness - this is a flex of your emotional muscles.

So go ahead, embrace anarchy, be patient with you. This is a trip, not a destination. Celebrate your strength and efforts till now. And believe that when you let go, there is still a way to take you in the universe where you were to be.