W.I.F.E.

Getting married is not difficult but staying married…. is not easy. From overpowering the urges of lust, to overcoming the insecurities and feelings of distrust, to dealing with the complacency and the marital changes that forces one another to compromise, negotiate, and adjust. Material things will not always be abundant, but your love for one another should always be robust. Keep in mind, things will change, but…as long as those changes are for the betterment of us.

Wedlock isn’t easy. Things will change seldomly or routinely. Do not get married if you are intending to be in it partially or briefly. Do not get married if you don’t love the person deeply. Do not get married if you don’t not accept them for who they are completely. Do not get married if your reason for doing so is due to one of you being financially abundant, and the other half is financially needy. There will be differences between you both, but make sure you always address your marital problems discreetly.

Within a marriage yield to the power a woman wields.

When you are armed with arrows of fortune, some women will use the system as their shield.

Is the love between you both a mutual feeling?

There are couples that are with each other only because of the children.

Does she want to marry you only because of your wealth with the intent of divorcing you later hoping she can take everything you own including the house you are building?

Be very conscious if your wife has single friends that are bitter, and that have been in past relationships and are still healing.

These are the type of women that have the tendency to sleep with a married man just because they can, because it is a challenge, and because they find it thrilling.

Is she with you because she can capitalize and profit off of your real property, pension, and stock purchases? How do you know that she is not with you for the sake of having your baby only because of your wealth —as she intends on reporting you to the division of child support services. Beware, because there are many out there who do not want marriage for pure purposes. So in order to ensure their character is valid you have to throw tests out there to make sure they are solid.

It is definitely a red flag if a woman refuses to reciprocate.

While you give, give, and give,

she becomes like a movie and all she wants to do is take, take, and take.

Many women think looks can compensate for everything not realizing over time, beauty will dissipate. Personality and character attributes always trumps physical traits; there is much more to a person than allure and shape.

A woman should want to hear your concerns, your suggestions, your importances, your accomplishments, your goals, your likes, and dislikes. You shouldn’t have to reiterate.

If you have to constantly repeat yourself it means what’s important to you is not important to her; marrying her is something you may want to re-evaluate.

Some differences you can negotiate. Some differences you can mitigate. Some differences you can eliminate. But you can’t address any differences if you be silent and ruminate.

Divorce is almost inevitable if you both refuse to communicate.

Are you satisfied with who they are in totality?

Meaning, your fantasy of what your ideal wife should like it, should match with who they are in reality.

A wife has to value what you say.

It is not good if she does things you dislike over and over again—forgetting the information you conveyed.

It is not good if you feel like you can’t be yourself.

It is not good if you have an adverse declination in your state of being and mental health.

Instead of improving the relationship is she only focused on improving herself?

Or, are you always the broke one in the marriage while she accumulates wealth?

Does she value your presence? Or does she value the presents as in gifts?

Meaning, does she value material things over your physical essence?

What is the reason behind why she wants you to be her spouse?

Is it because you are a handy man and you can fix things around the house?

Unaddressed behavior is behavior condoned.

Speak up, and respectfully set boundaries, and set the tone.

If you feel like you are in a relationship by yourself then you might as well be alone.

In any relationship there must be negotiations, balances, and checks.

I’ll rather have a ceremony postponed than to be prone to anything less than what I deserve and expect.

It is more beneficial to be single than in a lifetime commitment that will emerge into regret.

There are many that are married that do not have the attributes of a wife. Then there are few who are not married who have the attributes of a wife. To those who are not married and possess the attributes of a wife manifest your aspirations and become a wife. The perfect person is waiting for you to come into my their life. Or maybe…. they are already there standing right in front of you; when it comes to true love, you will never have to second guess it, nor look twice.

Then there are those who are jealous and envious—who admire your husband or your wife, who will make up any lie, plot, and scheme —all because they want a piece of your pie, as they are desperately curious to know what it is like to have a slice and what it is like to be illuminated with your limelight. These are the same people who may be camouflaged as friends and disguised as your enemy. These are the same people as to when you are going through bad times and in need of guidance and support, they will intentionally give you bad advice—not to help you but only to fulfill their own delights. These people are willing to do any and everything to get that special he or she out of your life. That goes to show you “Marriage is like diamonds - it always runs the risk of a heist.” But…not even a shadow stays hidden for long—what’s in the dark shall come to the light.

Wedlock Isn’t For Everyone. Marriage isn’t always fun. There are going to be temptations and urges to run. There are going to be times to where you want to quit, give up, and be done. But remember, you got married because you wanted to spend an eternity with that special someone.