The Trauma Bonds of Womanhood

I think I would be less insecure if I were married to a woman

Because that would mean being with someone who was traumatized by men, too

But instead I get to be frightened that he's going to leave the second that he sees someone who is prettier than me.

It really is quite scary being married to someone who gets to have the power of the world in their palm

He says he's a pacifist and that deescalation is the best way to avoid an altercation

But I'm not sure if he even understands that pacifism is a male privilege

For if a woman were to simply walk away she would be told to stop playing "hard to get"

But if a woman responds aggressively to a man making unwanted advances

That man would quite likely just take advantage.

I'd bet my last dollar that every woman knows what it's like

To have a "well-intentioned" man say that women are just mean if their first instinct is to fight

We're bitches if we choose to hold our own

We're whores when we choose not to fuck you

And we're just teases if we wear whatever appeases our own personal desires

After all, everyone knows that a woman who says she dresses for herself is just a flat out liar.

Now, don't get me wrong

I love my partner and with him is where I belong

I guess sometimes I just miss the feeling of being understood

A sensation that can only come from the trauma bonds of womanhood.