Perfect for Me

It has been four months now since I lost my father. We were always very close. I can say now that the pain is less than it was in the beginning, but I am nowhere near healed. The pain is still very much there, it has just lessened slightly. In my father's honor, I would like to share with everyone a poem I wrote for him shortly after his passing.

When I wrote this I was just attempting to express myself and how I was feeling at the moment. I never had any intention to publish what I had written. I have been considering sharing this poem since I started writing again on Vocal. I am hoping that this will touch the heart of anyone who has lost a loved one.

We know that we will never stop missing them... But sometimes it helps to ease the pain by remembering that the reason it hurts so much to live without them, is because we loved them that much. I hope you enjoy my poem.

Perfect for Me:

There is a grief that can't be spoken

No words to describe a loved one lost

It all came on so suddenly

The emptiness lost love costs

We know this feeling of sadness

Only equals the love we shared

The greater the pain, the greater the love

But now our hearts are bared

Your kindness knew no bounds

Your heart was always true

You cared for everyone around you

Your hugs I never outgrew

I wish I could still hear your voice

Your laughter and your jokes

To see your smile one more time

Is the greatest of my hopes

One more thing I want most of all

Is to make sure you know

Something so important to me

It only makes my love for you grow

There may not be a perfect parent

It is something impossible to be

But one thing I know most of all

You're the perfect father for me

There are not enough words in the English language to say everything we wish we could say when we lose someone close. There are some good days in between all the bad ones. The worst feeling is when you're actually having a good day and then suddenly you are reminded of them and the sadness hits you all at once all over again.

I know the road to healing is going to be a long one. My heart goes out to anyone else going through a similar experience. We are not alone. It hurts, it sucks, but we just have to take it one step, one moment, one day at a time.