Is Your Value Defined by Them, or You?

When I was young, I remember a boy saying to me, 'It would be better if you lost another five kilograms.' At that time, I already had a very standard figure, but when I heard this, I immediately felt deep self-doubt. At that moment, it was as if my worth was defined by that number.

I started thinking about how to lose those five kilograms, scrutinizing my shortcomings in the mirror, and feeling a little guilty every time I ate. Although my friends told me, 'You are already very thin,' that comment was like a thorn stuck deep in my heart, and I couldn't let it go.

It wasn't until I moved abroad that everything started to change. I found that the foreign girls around me were taller and stronger than me, but they were all quite confident. They wore their favorite clothes, enjoyed food to their heart's content, and even swayed boldly on the dance floor, exuding an undeniable charm.

At that moment, I suddenly realized that the problem was never my weight, but my recognition of my own value. True self-confidence is not about meeting a certain 'standard,' but about fully accepting yourself as you are.

If I could go back to that time, I would definitely say to that boy with a smile:

'Wait until you grow to 180cm before discussing my weight with me!'

Then I'd eat some fried chicken while watching him speechless.

What is truly worth striving for is not to meet other people’s expectations, but to live freely and calmly.

Other people’s evaluations are reflectors, not magnifying glasses.

Other people's opinions reflect their values, not yours. Don't magnify other people's comments and minimize your own value.

The environment changes your standards, but true self-confidence will not change.

Different cultures and aesthetics will affect the external view of you, but true self-confidence comes from within and will not change with the environment.

You are not someone else’s wish list.

Everyone has different expectations of you, but your life is not to satisfy others, but to fulfill yourself.

Self-worth comes from how you define yourself.

Your worth is not determined by your achievements, appearance, or the approval of others, but by your recognition of your own abilities, growth, and uniqueness. When you measure life by your own standards, you will live more freely.

Other people’s comments are external noise, and your self-confidence is the real rhythm. The value of life is never defined by others, but by your own choices. When you are able to let go of other people's views and focus on accepting yourself, the world will begin to be kind to you.

Thank you for reading!