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Great Mothers Know

Only their own pain

By K.B. Silver Published 2 months ago Updated 2 months ago 2 min read
Great Mothers Know
Photo by Rejoice Denhere on Unsplash

Behind every Great Mother

There's a broken-down child

Crushed under the cap of her

Sensible heel

Begging and searching

For the tender light of love

Behind every Great Mother

Lays a carefully curated daughter

With every liberty taken

From her for fairness's sake

Expected to repeat every

Generational mistake

Behind every Great Mother

Stands a pedestal-bound son

Towering above a

Bewildered and unwanted wife

Unsure how she inherited

Someone else's broken life

Behind every Great Mother

Exists a hungry gaping void

She pulled herself up by her bra-straps

Built herself from scratch

Who are you to take?

Who are you to ask for anything?

Behind every Great Mother

There is a long, hard road

You either blaze the trail together

Or bear the heavy load, alone

Passing down the burden

Either way

K.B. Silver

My mother was a self-appointed great. She loved to brag about leaving us in our cribs until we "learned" not to cry. She was a master of delegation. I cooked, I cleaned, I did elder care duty for my grandparents, and I helped my brother with homework. I had to help him with reading all the way into high school, because, like I am not autistic, he isn't dyslexic.

Once my brother got married (the first time, his first wife passed away from cancer), my mother's obsession became being a self-proclaimed great mother-in-law. My SIL's five-year battle with cancer gave my mother ample opportunity to cultivate all sorts of "good deeds," which she, of course, kept track of and used as leverage. Doing something nice isn't really generous if you directly ask for something in return later. I don't think people should give and give without receiving love and energy in return, but emotional blackmail isn't the way to do it.

Good mothers love their children unconditionally. They would give their own life to save them. It's why Sophie's choice wasn't to choose between her own life and her child's; it was to choose between two of her children. For most mothers, the former wouldn't be a choice. Unfortunately, I know which choice my mother would have made in both instances. From my perspective, she did make it. She chose herself roll credits.

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About the Creator

K.B. Silver

K.B. Silver has poems published in magazine Wishbone Words, and lit journals: Sheepshead Review, New Note Poetry, Twisted Vine, Avant Appa[achia, Plants and Poetry, recordings in Stanza Cannon, and pieces in Wingless Dreamer anthologies.

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  • The Dani Writer2 months ago

    Powerfully raw and REAL!!! I am blown away at your sharing such a personal part of yourself so publicly. I understand healing can take a lifetime, but your writing oozed elevation of body, mind, and spirit over what you endured, like no one has the power to hurt you at that depth again. Maybe it's just my silly lens, but still I admire you and honour these lessons you've shared with the world.

  • Tim Carmichael2 months ago

    You really captured the heavy weight and the hidden pain that can be passed down. It takes a lot to share this kind of experience.

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