Finding Your Light: Embracing Imperfection

When you stop trying to please others and cease striving for perfection, your light returns.

We often believe that women become unhappy because they are not pretty enough, not perfect enough, or not hardworking enough. But what truly exhausts women isn't these things. It’s trying too hard in life.

Trying too hard to please, trying too hard to be sensible, trying too hard to shrink yourself down to be small, light, and transparent. You believe this will reduce conflict, reduce blame, and reduce loss. The result, however, is that you slowly lose the most important person—yourself.

"Beauty is not about being flawless, but about appreciating your own imperfections."

This sentence serves as a reminder to every woman: We are not unhappy because we become imperfect; we are unhappy because we don't allow ourselves to be imperfect.

This reminds me of how I used to try so hard to take care of my family, my children, and my marriage. But how can a woman who is always striving for perfection and constantly trying to please others have the energy to truly shine?

True change begins when you stop trying to please others. It begins when you are willing to say:

"I get tired too."

"I need to be seen."

"I don't want to compromise myself anymore."

"I need my own time."

When you start selfishly planning activities for yourself, it all begins. It begins when you allow yourself to be imperfect, immature, and weak.

So, when you let go of pleasing others, and let go of perfection, you will find—your light hasn't changed, it has simply returned.

"I don't pursue eternal beauty, I just want to always have light." This is a beautiful statement that I've always remembered because it speaks to a woman's most authentic power. Beauty may fade, but the "light" you radiate will not.

This "light" comes from your inner strength, your freedom, your confidence, and your true self.

Just as you often tell me I'm becoming more and more beautiful, I believe it's because when I no longer shrink back for anyone, compromise for love, or pretend for life, my light shines from within.

It’s not because I’ve become more capable or perfect, but because leaving my marriage allowed me to return to myself. I don't need to please others, nor do I need to be perfect. I just need to be myself—and light will naturally emanate from me.

So, this is for everyone, whether you are divorced or in a marriage: if you are unhappy, consider whether you have lost yourself. Think about what you can do just for yourself.

Let’s slowly rediscover our own light together.

Thank you for reading!