Are They Worth Your Energy?

If you want to improve your life, stay away from people who make you uncomfortable.

A while ago, a friend came to have coffee with me. As soon as she sat down, she sighed: "I've been feeling so tired recently..."

I asked her, “Are you too busy at work?”

She shook her head. "It's not the work, it's the people. I've found that every time I chat with some people, I feel very depressed. Sometimes I even doubt myself and wonder if I'm not doing well enough."

I laughed: "Have you ever met someone who always exudes a sense of superiority, intentionally or unintentionally?"

Her eyes lit up. "Yes! They seem to be used to stepping on you 'in passing' during conversations, making you feel that you are not good enough... but they obviously don't say anything explicitly, and if I say anything, it will be seen as me being too sensitive."

I nodded. "This kind of person is the most terrifying. They make you waste your energy, but you can't find any definite evidence to refute them."

She said helplessly, "There are also some people who make me feel that I should do this, but in fact, no one requires me to do this!"

I laughed: "So, you have to start learning to stay away from these people."

She hesitated: "Can I really stay away?"

I took a sip of coffee and said calmly, "Of course, start by not replying to messages."

She was stunned for a moment, then laughed: "That can be done!"

In fact, the main thing is...

When the people around you often make you feel uncomfortable, please run away!

"Uncomfortable" is not an illusion, but your intuition reminding you that this relationship is draining you.

This feeling may come from:

Negative energy field: Some people are always complaining and criticizing, making you feel depressed.

An inexplicable sense of superiority: Talking always makes you feel small or "as if something is missing."

Moral kidnapping: Using family affection and friendship to make you feel that "it should be this way," but in fact, you don't want to do it at all.

Emotional blackmail: Making you feel that if you don’t do what they want, there is something wrong with you, and even making you feel guilty.

Invisible competition mentality: You are obviously friends, but you always feel that the other person wants to compare you in every way, making it impossible for you to relax and be yourself.

These will drain your energy, causing you to become self-defeating without realizing it, and even to doubt yourself. So, run; there is really nothing to hesitate about!

The family part is the trickiest because…

Friends can choose not to contact each other, but what about family?

Indeed, family relationships are more complicated than general interpersonal relationships and more difficult to cut off completely. But we still have options:

Reduce the frequency of interactions: Reduce the number of times you meet up to avoid putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation.

Adjust your mindset: Don’t expect to change the other person, but learn to “understand” them and not be affected by them.

Set boundaries: When someone starts to put pressure on you, change the subject or end the conversation.

These practices can help you maintain your own energy field without having to sever ties completely.

Clear away the uncomfortable energy, and your life will be truly light.

The environment affects people, and the people around you are your energy field. When you start to sort out your interpersonal relationships and stay away from those who bring you pressure and discomfort, your life will become more quality-oriented, and your career, relationships, and health will also improve.

You don’t need everyone to like you; you just need to stay in a "comfortable" environment, because only a truly light and comfortable state can allow you to continue to grow.

Have you ever had such an experience? Feel free to share your story!

Thank you for reading!