What to Do When You Don't Feel Good Enough

Everyone feels unworthy sometimes. It is a part of our life that is full of uncertainty.

Insecurity is a term we use to refer to people who doubt themselves, which we are all guilty of.

The good thing about insecurity is that it makes you work harder on your relationship and appreciate the people in your life.

However, too much insecurity can create a toxic atmosphere in the relationship and damage your self-confidence. It has the power to hold you back in all areas of life.

The good news is that insecurities are not unchangeable. You can beat them 100 percent all the time, no matter how big or small they are.

Doing so just requires some work on yourself and a plan of action. So, if you are someone or you know someone who is insecure about themselves, these are some steps to help your gain your confidence back in no time.

Stop believing everything you see on social media

The first thing you should remember as a confident person is that what you see on social media is not a reality. What you are seeing is a snapshot of somebody else's life.

What you see is what they want you to see. They don't show you how much debt they are in. You don't hear about how they fight with their partners or the challenges they go through every day.

They make you believe a lie because no one has a perfect life without challenges.

So when you see all these Instagram filters profiles, don't assume that is how their life is because no one has it a reality that perfect.

Don't ever compare yourself to anybody else except you

When we keep feeling inferior, our self-worth becomes very low, and it becomes very difficult to maintain a positive attitude towards life and life challenges. This often leads to physical and emotional trauma.

Whenever you feel insecure, remember it is your mind comparing your life with somebody else's.

Embrace your uniqueness, build on your strength and strengthen your weakness. You are perfect in the way you are.

The only person you have to compete with is yourself. If you feel like you're a failure or inadequate, compare yourself to where you were a day, a month, or 5 years ago.

In this way you strive to become the best version of yourself.

Surround yourself with people who reinforce positive behavior about who you are

Positivity is contagious, and so is negativity. There are only a few people in my life who get me.

When I'm insecure, I can drive 410 km to see my supportive friends, or squeeze an hour into my hectic evening to talk to them on the phone.

They remind me of what is good and unique about me that other people do not appreciate.

When you need advice and support, go to the people who always cheer you on and genuinely want to see you win.

If you can change what you are insecure about, change it

If you are insecure about your smile, practice a different smiling style. If you are insecure about your weight, then start working out to lose those fat.

But if you feel insecure because someone induced that thought in your head, the best thing you can do is ask a second opinion from someone who is always honest with you without filtering their words.

And if you feel they are right, then work on improving whatever it is that needs fixing. But do it for you, not for somebody else.

Some abusers can criticize you, so they can feel good about themselves. Don't let them back you into that corner.

Work on boosting your self-esteem

One of the easiest ways I use to improve my self-confidence is helping people.

Volunteer to help people in your community. Do something kind for somebody else. Not because you expect a reward from them but because you want to feel good about yourself.

A few things you can do online to help you feel better is writing about topics that will help fix people's daily problems, creating self-help Youtube video, or giving out items on social media platforms.

People are actively looking for help, and you can be a reason for someone to be happy again, which will make you feel more worthy than ever.

Don't believe everything you overthink

Worry and doubt are self-inflicted patterns of behaviors that cause us to overthink.

Not feeling good enough can be especially hazardous for your romantic relationships by making you more prone to feelings of anxiety and jealousy.

You worry about impressing a potential date, if your partner is happy with you, what made your ex break up with you, overthinking their latest Instagram post, overthinking how you can get them back.

Overthinking can really hold you back from moving forward and giving a new relationship a chance.

Remind yourself that the stories you are making up are adding to your stress, and as much as you can, be in reality rather than wasting your precious time searching for closure or answers that do not exist.

Parting thoughts

When you start practicing the tips above, you probably won't see progress right away.

But if done consistently, you will begin to see changes in your life and be proud of yourself.

When you learn your attachment style and build a life that you love, your confidence and self-esteem will grow.

You will find that you do not sacrifice your happiness for someone who does not see your value.

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Jessey Anthony is a motivational speaker, fitness coach and relationship expert who helps people become confident in themselves in any challenges they face in life. Sign up to my newsletter & more cool stuff.

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