What My Scar Taught Me

By Tariq Shah

We all carry scars.

Some are visible—etched into our skin like tiny roadmaps of battles fought. Others lie beneath the surface, hidden from the world but no less real. I carry both. But there’s one scar in particular—a faint, curved line on my left forearm—that taught me more than any classroom, mentor, or book ever did.

At first glance, it’s unremarkable. You might not even notice it unless I point it out. But to me, that scar marks the turning point in my life. It’s a reminder of who I was, what I endured, and how I came out the other side.


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I was seventeen when the emotional fog began to settle in. On the outside, I was functioning just fine. I went to school, completed assignments, laughed at jokes, played football, and did everything expected of a "normal" teenager. But on the inside, I felt like I was slowly sinking.

It wasn’t one traumatic event that caused the change. Rather, it was the slow accumulation of pressure, fear, isolation, and the haunting feeling of not being good enough. I felt like I was watching life unfold from behind glass—present, but detached.

In my family, mental health wasn’t something we talked about. Sadness was something to "shake off." Emotions were bottled up and pushed aside. So that’s what I did. I stayed silent. I wore a mask and convinced myself that I was fine.

Until I wasn’t.


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One quiet evening, overwhelmed and exhausted from pretending, I found myself staring blankly at my bedroom wall. My thoughts spiraled. I didn’t want to die—but I didn’t want to keep living like this, either. The pain inside felt unbearable. I reached for a broken piece of a plastic pen and scratched it lightly across my arm.

It wasn’t deep, and I didn’t bleed much. I just wanted to feel something real—something I could understand. For a few moments, the storm in my head went quiet.

And then came the guilt.

I immediately regretted what I’d done. I cleaned the wound, pulled my sleeve down, and told myself I would never do it again. But every time I saw that small mark, I felt ashamed.

I started hiding from people even more. I stopped going to the gym. I avoided swimming or changing in public. The fear of someone seeing the scar and asking questions was too much.


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But healing doesn’t always begin with grand gestures. Sometimes, it starts with a whisper.

During a quiet lunch break, I sat alone under the staircase at school, trying to disappear. That’s when a classmate sat next to me—not out of pity, but out of genuine care. She didn’t ask “What’s wrong?” or offer advice. She just said:

“Are you okay?”

It was a simple question. But it was asked with so much sincerity that I couldn’t ignore it. We talked. Slowly at first. I didn’t share everything that day, but I began to open up. Eventually, I learned that she had faced her own battles too. That connection sparked a flicker of hope in me.


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In time, I found the courage to speak to a school counselor. Saying the words out loud was terrifying, but also freeing. For the first time, I realized I wasn’t alone. I wasn’t weak or broken. I was just a human being trying to make sense of emotions I had never been taught how to handle.

Therapy became a safe place where I learned to process my feelings, understand my patterns, and rebuild myself. I started writing again—something I loved as a child. Through writing, I found my voice. I gave shape to my thoughts, and in doing so, I began to heal.


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Today, I still carry that scar. But it’s no longer something I hide. It’s a symbol of survival—a quiet reminder that even when I was at my lowest, I chose to keep going.

It reminds me that vulnerability is not weakness.
That silence can be dangerous.
That one kind question can change someone’s life.
That healing isn’t always a straight line—but it's always possible.


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What did my scar teach me?

It taught me that emotional wounds deserve care, just like physical ones.
It taught me that it’s okay to not be okay—and to ask for help.
It taught me that scars, whether on our skin or in our hearts, are not signs of failure. They are signs of strength.
And most importantly, it taught me that being human means feeling pain—but also finding resilience.


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If you’re reading this and you’re struggling:

Please know—you are not alone.
You are not broken.
You are loved.
And your story is far from over.

Scars do not define you. They remind you that you’re still here. And that is something beautiful.

Author Note: This story is a reflection of a personal journey and is shared in the hope that it reaches someone who needs to hear these words. You are stronger than you know.