Two Ways to Forget About the Past and Move On With Life

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”

― Mother Theresa

Last year I visited a hill station and met an older man. He lives in one of the beautiful garden houses with his wife, and I was fortunate to visit their home. Their home is covered with a garden that has more than a hundred different types of plants. Filled with flowers and they had a lovebirds cage which has more than twenty beautiful little birds. It was like heaven. No, it was heaven. They offered me tea, and within a few minutes, I understood how happily they are living.

His wife is a fantastic person who made me laugh for every sentence she spoke of. Her sense of humor was exceptional, and I asked that couple how many kids they have. Before I could finish off my question, they both answered in one voice, ‘We have more than one hundred kids,’ and they pointed out their beautiful garden and pets. Later, I came to know their only son was killed in an accident thirty years ago. I had no words to express my feelings, and I felt sad to know their grievance. But they told me one thing, they are not living in their “Past,” and they are living this beautiful life, which is nothing but the present. It was an eye-opener for me.

We all had a past. We all had issues in our past. Also, we had pleasant memories of the past. But how many of us forgot all those bad things about the past and only thinking about the pleasant things? Whenever we feel sad, mostly the reason could be a past thing or a relationship or incident which went wrong. How to overcome past demons and how to be happy in the present? It is the question one would have asked himself at least ten times in his life. For many, at least it is a hundred times. For some people, it is a daily question to themselves.

In this article, I have listed down two practices that will help you to overcome the unfortunate past and make you focus on the present, and by doing these, your Future will be designed as per your wish.

1.Bin-Bin:

This practice is for those who had breakups, divorce, or any related issues in their past and still thinking about that over and over. Buy sticky notes(Post IT) and have them in your handbag or backpack. Whenever you think about someone who made you unhappy, bless them (yes, you read it correctly, bless them) and take one leaf of the sticky notes and write their name on it.

Find a bin and throw it.

You might think about how can I bless them and throw them in the bin.

1. Your blessings will do good things for them and also make you feel at ease
2. When you throw their name into the bin, you are letting the bad memories out of your heart, which was pricking your heart during every heartbeat. So, it is a win-win for both, and we can call it bin-bin ☺

2.Embrace-Fear:

Why do we get fear? It is because of our experience. If you have feared facing an Interview or if you have feared writing an Exam, it is because of your past. You would have rejected in an Interview or failed in an exam. I have failed three times in the statistics exam during my post-graduation. The reason was straightforward; after my first attempt, I grew up fear into my mind. Whenever I appear for the statistics exam, my mind was filled with fear and attracted more fear. In the end, the result was a failure. So, to overcome the fear of the past, you can do this practice. Start embracing the fear you have.

It might sound crazy, but this is how one can overcome fear. Example: If you fear an interview, close your eyes and think that everything is going as per your wish. You are walking to the interview room confidently, you are facing the interviewer with much confidence, and you are coming out of that office with an offer letter. It is like walking towards the fear and embraces it.

One of my friends, always having a fear of cockroaches, and one day I told him a funny thing, I said to him that the cockroach that is coming towards you might be the soldier because you were a cockroach king in your previous birth. He laughed at me first, then his fear started to reduce, and today if he sees a cockroach, he will not run away. He embraces the fear and overcomes it.

Final Thoughts

If you follow these two practices, you will be able to forget the past and live in the present.

Always remember, no one becomes successful in the past.

If you want to achieve what you want in life, you should forget the tough past and cherish it in the present. By doing so, the Future is yours!