Treasury Truth

I had this belief that I could somehow take someones else pain away for them. Something I wish I could. But I have learnt that it is not my job. It's nobody's job to take away anyone's pain for them. Because that's a job only the individual can do for themselves. We all have different types of ingredients to pain and the healing process won't look the same.

Each and one of us have a certain amount of time on this Earth and nobody should spend their time playing small or living their life through others expectations. Because I know from experience that kills your souls.

~~ the treasure within you.

Before we even come into this world. There are already expectations set for us. Like what our gender is going to be. Although it doesn't matter what gender you identify as there are social expectations already tagged on you. As we grow we get caught up in other different types of pressure and expectations surrounding us. Either from family, friends, the community, culture or religion.

Having a sense of purpose in life takes away those pressure and expectations. That we have to have accomplished something by a certain age or else you're a failure. Bringing in this sense of pressure that we have to all go by a certain speed in life. When in reality we are all in different stages of our life.

The purpose of life is creating the reality you want. -- Take your time and figure out what your passion and desires are. I mean everyone including you has passion. Just gotta spark it back up. -- I tapped into my inner child. During my healing process, I was able to find clues on my spark. It's like a treasure hunt. Each piece that you heal gives you clues. Your job is to find the treasure, that is within you.

Personally, for me, it brings comfort knowing that others don't have detailed plans on where they are going. It's comforting that I am not alone with this confusion and uncertainty. *Sings: Were All in this Together by High School Musical Cast*

~~ your TRUTH

I've always made myself small and watered down my truth because I didn't want to upset others. I'd feel guilty for speaking truth so I'd try to keep the peace. - Although from those experiences I've learnt that making yourself small isn't a way of living a fulling life.

From learning to speak my truth I've realised there will be people who won't like it when you've finally decided to stop playing small and speak your truth. Many will get uncomfortable and some might spread hate. Although that should never let you go back to watering yourself down. Let them be uncomfortable and you keep shining your light. -

I know change can feel scary and uncomfortable. BUT feelings aren't facts.

Nobody can tell you a detailed plan of your future and what it holds for you. I know it's not about the destinations but the journey. The present moment is the journey!

~~ the idea of FOREVER is DYING: (ending forever)

Being comfortable with death and endings brought the idea of forever down the drain. Especially in relationships platonic or romantic. In movies, books, shows and advertisements there has been this promotion of the ideas of not being whole without a partner, looking youthful as you age or forever. What is forever? I mean in the context of relationships; the memories that you've made with others or places stay with you forever. Maybe the actual person isn't supposed to stay forever, but the feelings and emotions they give you do. You get to decide on which emotions you are going to keep from them.

Having to be comfortable with endings is important in life. You have to let go and welcome endings because usually, it means something new is coming. Sometimes an ending is a must to be able to grow to the person you want to become. Having to let go and end a relationship (or whatever it might be) because it's simply not working out anymore, can be hard. When something ends we can't see the bigger picture. If your lenses are through your Ego you won't be able to see the things you could gain from these endings. Instead, you focus on what you're losing.

Example: One-sided relationships. You lose people to surround yourself with and spend time with. Although you do GAIN spare time and energy for yourself. The time and energy you would have put into these one-sided relationships. Instead, you are getting to know yourself, figuring what your passions and goals. - It's not selfish to invest time and energy on yourself.

Nobody can tell the future and emotions aren't permanent. They change and that is something you don't have control over. Being in any type of relationships you have to let go of control. (PSA) Controlling behaviours in a relationship is a toxic and HUGE red flag.

Someone's emotions aren't yours to change and alter for your benefit.

This is where being present in the moment comes in. Because initially the past and future don't exist nor do they matter. The present moment is the only moment that matters. It's the only moment you are in. It doesn't matter how much plans you've made for the future. If you don't nourish the present moment in your relationships, there is no future.

~~ giving an F.E.C to your past:

You have to be able to accept, understand and give yourself Forgiveness, Empathy and Compassion (F.E.C) for your every part of the past. This process might take time. But each day gives yourself F.E.C and that replaces the negative and self-hatred talk that our ego feeds on. You have to forgive and love your past self, even though others around you don't. - A reminder that you have no control over anyone's perception and how they paint you.

I learnt that in life comes with the good and the bad. That same concept applies to us. we aren't able to just receive the goods because chaos and evil are always lurking around. That's something we aren't able to oppress and ignore. Especially within yourself. Because nobody is perfect. We've harmed others whether we're able to admit it out loud. - Taking accountability for your actions. Not just the good ones but also the harm and bad actions towards others and yourself. Accepting yourself as a whole and a gentle reminder that the actions and decisions you've made in the past were base on the knowledge and information you had then.

The only time I'm ever looking at my past is when I am reflecting. You can open the past up although you can not live your present through your past lenses. You can not change the past as much as you want too because that is impossible. The only time you should be looking in the past is when you're reflecting or trying to find a lesson. Life as humans is about evolving, not going backwards.

Your past can be your greatest tool for self-improvements.

~~ MY two cents on faith and religion:

Nobody knows what happens when we die. Everyone has their theories and assumptions, but nobody knows. Our body is going to deteriorate once we die. Although what happens to our consciousness, does that part deteriorate too? Another question that nobody can give you an answer that comes with evidence.

I believe there is a higher power out there. Each of the religions that we have in our society today is segregated from their beliefs, the god they worship, to the ceremony they part take in. Although with all the differences each and one of them promotes love, forgiveness, kindness and compassion.

Everyone is entitled to their own faith. Although, I personally don't think it's very faithful to discriminate and exclude others who don't fit in or agree with your beliefs. Because discrimination and exclusion don't come from love or kindness. They come from the sense of control and fear, which something that many religious institutions have established within them.

The religious institutions that operate through control and fear aren't authentic. Religion isn't supposed to oppress you, its purpose to be freeing and open to express yourself. Because we as humans we evolve and alter, so will our definitions. - It's a violation of human rights to not be able to express yourself. That's sh*ts suffocating.

I believe that each individual has their unique signature on how they should practice or relate to faith, of their choosing. Like how each and one of us are all one, yet are so uniquely different. -- The way I see it is that each and one of us has come from one tree and we're the leaves. Each leaf is different in there own way from the colours and tones, to the patterns on it. But we're all one. ~

Each and one of us has access to a treasure that only you are able to find within you.