The Fear of Commitment

The word commitment is a strong word. But people are afraid of it. I love you baby. I will do anything for you. How many times do people say that to one another and then the situation changes? Fasten your seat belts ladies and gentlemen.

You know why people find it hard to commit? Because they haven’t matured yet. They don’t know what they want. The little black book scenario has existed for ages. People used to write phone numbers down, a woman/man would find numbers in clothes pockets, whatever the case may be. But now, things have changed. Now, people just exchange phone numbers.

One worst-case scenario that anyone could ever experience: Being in a room with their significant other’s phone. It rings. They answer. Its another woman/man’s voice on the end, not knowing it’s the not the person that they called to speak to. Baby, what are you doing right now? I’m thinking about you. What are we doing this weekend? Something of that nature. This person is just talking away, not realizing that they are just airing out the whole side relationship. 2 things can happen. 1. Confront the person and argue with the person on the phone or 2. Simply hang up and leave. Option 2 works best.

It’s a hurt feeling when you realize that you are not first. This person knows everything about you and you thought you knew everything about them. But yet, you aren’t first. Why? Because someone, somewhere will always be first. A person can say I love you until they are blue in the face. But deep down inside, the person saying that knows that their heart is not with the person that they are saying it to. They love the thought of that person, not the person. Some people lie very well.

Baby, I love you. Million-dollar statement. Nobody else can do what you do. Clarify that statement. Physically or Sexually? Thank you for everything really equals, he/she provides my needs and great sex, when I’m in the mood. But, I have a real man/woman somewhere else who satisfies my every need and is on my level. The perfect excuse for hours without calling: Baby, I was sleep. There are 24 hours a day. DO THE MATH!

I may lose subscribers for this but I don’t care. The double standard as they call it, is capital BS! Cheating is cheating. No side is any different. When a man cheats, its okay because society views it that way. Society views a man who cheats as low-down, a liar, even as far as to say he has had the woman the whole time.

But the moment that a woman cheats, she is a ho, a b****, I cant believe her, she knows she has been wanting him all along. These are the ways that people think when they find out that someone has cheated. There are several possibilities but I will choose 2. First possibility: The person has lost interest in who they are with. The person they once loved has now began to bore them and they found someone new.

He/she may have already been seeing this person for a while. Second possibility, the person is no longer happy. He/she comes homes every day with fake love for who they are with. The whole time they are having sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend, they are thinking about that new person. So, they begin to do the same things in bed that they do with that other person. I’m just keeping it 100.

Fear of commitment is something normal. Don’t say you can do it knowing you can’t. If you are willing to throw it all away on another man/woman that you THINK is everything you want, something is wrong. The person that you are doing wrong is who you had better think about because it’s easy to walk away from someone you think you don’t want anymore but its hard to come back after you have burned that serious bridge.

To conclude my story, I say this, you can throw a rock and try to hide your hand. But you will get caught red-handed, not from red dirt, but by your woman or man.