self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
No exception to the rule
All your life you have been learning something new. From home to school, teachers and parents, basically any adult influences in your life; you can admit someone has always tried to teach you something. From birth, life is a constant series of lessons for you to learn on your way to own your independence. What they don’t teach you is that learning is of a universal law that applies to every aspect of life, including you. You are no exception to the rule of learning. Meaning as an independent adult you have to learn who you truly are. Who are you? The masses are overwhelmed by their tedious routine or constantly distracted by meaningless decoys and useless social outlets. These things become the main focus of peoples lives as they never second guess its true impact . The consumption of these things detach us from self. As a child many things are taught to you for a specific outcome. The adults in your life taught you what they felt you needed to learn according to their individual standards. We are taught these things to behave, act, respond in a certain way that will accommodate the adults in our lives at that time. Things are taught to us with expected outcome. If these expected outcomes are not displayed then you were punished or received an unpleasant response. This is because the basis of the standards taught to us as children were of power and control some even claim for protection. The adults in our lives needed us to follow their rules and standards for one purpose; to make their lives easier. If these rules and standards were not made or followed, many lives would be unbalanced and chaotic. Therefore as a child we are taught what others decide we should learn. However they fail to teach us in order to become the unique individual human you are being; as an adult you have to teach you to yourself. In everything you learn, you are no exception to the rules. In order to live up to your beings full potential and fulfill a truly authentic life being you; first you have to know who you are. In order to do this you have to spend time with yourself learning yourself. Some call this soul searching or self awareness. Majority of people are overwhelmed by the tedious repetition of life. Never thinking twice of the possibility to reevaluate who they really are. The masses are constantly distracted by meaningless decoys and useless outlets that consumes and clutters their mind that they’ll never grasp the fact of self awareness. Many are often bored with this fact and some convince their self that there is no time for that and they have more important things to do. What could possibly be more important than you to you? As social media reflects many are followers just following what they see, the next trend, what they believe is cool or will make them cool. Attempting to fit in with the in crowd and trying to please everyone but their self. The blind leading the blind is easy because the blue print is easily accessed. No one feels they have time for themselves anymore, with twenty four hours in a day how many hours to you spend getting to know you? It’s been said it takes a lifetime to truly get to know someone. I like to say especially if they don’t know who they are. If it takes a life time to get to know someone else imagine how long it takes to know your self if you’ve never given yourself the time of day. There comes a point in your adult life where you have to make your own choices and the first choice should be to get to know who you are authentically. You have to take our time to listen to your mind your heart. The beauty of life is our gift of feeedom of choice. Everything in life has a choice and inevitably a decision has to be made. You are where you’re at in life because of a series of decisions you made in the past. Every decision played a part to get you exactly where you now. Whether or not you are where you want to be or not you made some choice on the road to now. Now I want you to make a choice and decide to get to know who you are. You are definitely a late bloomer but it’s never to late. Often we second guess ourselves and doubt the thoughts in our mind. We never give ourselves credit because we have yet to even know who we are. The good thing is that once you start to learn more about yourself the learning process from then on is a piece of cake. It becomes second nature or I’d like to call it first nature. Imagine a neglected you inside of you; lonely, helpless and crying for attention and love. I’m often amazed at how many people are so eager to neglect themselves just to follow the next person or attempting to love someone that is constantly rejecting their love or just taking advantage of them because of lack of self worth. It’s sad at how many people settle with unacceptable treatment simply because they don’t know who they are enough to realize or care to know what is really happening to them. Meanwhile the inside you is hurt broken lonely and bruised; still crying out waiting for you to hear. It’s amazing once you meet yourself and see how much pain and neglect you’ve been putting yourself through, you will wonder how you went on so long without acknowledging the fact. You’ll even question your self esteem. Once you become acquainted with yourself and reflect on life without you, questions will arise: “how did I put myself through that?” “Why did it take so long for me to see inside of me” “did I have low self esteem?” “Did I not value myself” “did I not love myself?” “did I hate myself?” All these questions are normal because it natural to feel this way when you haven’t been intuned with what’s inside you. When you connect to yourself inside you become whole, you have a new perspective on life you start to see things authentically and all these things contribute to a new way of thinking, new way of living and a new peace of mind. They say treat people the way you want to be treated, but how is that possible when you don’t know yourself enough to know how you want to be treated. I firmly believe that it is a universal law that everything starts within. How can you expect to be loved if you don’t know how to love yourself. Start with you, apply that to any aspect of your life. You first, why? Because without you, you wouldn’t be alive. You are all there is at the end of the day. It is mandatory for you to be there for yourself in every way possible. You have been a stranger to self long enough, your heart and soul is crying out to be complete.
By Elyce Israel5 years ago in Motivation
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Living - Am I Worth it?
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By Angelica Lyanna N. Garcia5 years ago in Motivation
The Ink That Change My Life
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By Ceecee Jamison5 years ago in Motivation
The year 2050
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By FRANCO CIANFLONE 5 years ago in Motivation
My quarantine
I never thought I’d be here. I never thought I would take this job. I never thought I’d leave my family, my partner, a job that I loved but battled with, to come here and one of the most difficult transitions into a new world. My friends and family told me not to take it. But something in my heart told me to come. I can’t describe it. The best way I can try to even remotely describe it is by saying it felt like my heart was smiling when I thought about arriving here. Now I’m in quarantine after two very long flight and this is the view that I presented with. Day 1:
By Kane 5 years ago in Motivation
When Life is in Turmoil Remember This ???
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By Mohit Chawla5 years ago in Motivation
Self Improvement Made Easy ?
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