Summarizing What is True

Beyonce’s song Irreplaceable was a hit for the longest. She wanted the man to know that she could replace him in the blink of an eye. As she got older, she began to mature. She got married and went through quite a few storms. Although there was never a direct statement or action made, she could have been replaced several times, but she wasn’t. What’s my point? Sometimes, the very things that we say can happen to us. Sticks and stones do break bones and words will hurt you.

Today, relationships are so complicated. You either want to be with someone or you don't. Simple as that. Some people won’t commit because 1. They still have that little black book lingering around that you don’t know about (some women, notice I said some, have them too), 2. They may not be ready because of the trauma they have experienced in the past but 95% of the time, reason number 1 is the issue.

I feel that its selfish to have a little black book and enter a relationship. Sad to say it, we all know it, but people do it. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. Common statement but I will put it this way: Greed and addiction are one in the same. Why? Because you will always want more. You can never be happy if you always want something different. This is where cheating begins.

If you have to go out and cheat on a person, then that means you are not happy. Period point blank. No excuse for it whatsoever. No matter what length of time you are with someone, if you are not happy or satisfied, cut ties. Its sad when 2 people say that they just tolerate each other.

I’m not tolerating anyone. We are either together or not. There is no being roommates and seeing other people in the same house because that’s a bunch of drama and conflict. People do that but I’m not one of them. I always say nothing surprises me anymore and I’m being real on that.

Here’s my theory on cheating. Its something that happens spontaneously (spare of the moment) or two people have been planning to do it for a long time, if they already aren’t. I will say 10% of the time, it is spare of the moment but 90%, its planned. Its planned because 2 people are attracted to each other and they get the opportunity to follow through with that plan.

The only thing that these two people are thinking about is having a good time together. But eventually, the bottom falls out. Why? Because one person is going to get tired of hiding. That person wants to be acknowledged and may even want to be in a relationship.

When that person gets rejected, they will resort to blackmail. Usually, its a woman blackmailing a man but it could be the other way around. This person is now "a rock in a hard place." Paying the man/woman off is the typical response but sometimes that man/woman doesn't want just the money; they want that person and the money.

To go home and admit that you have cheated or if you are married, admit that you are having an affair, is a devastating blow. Every person reacts different but the thought of your significant other/spouse touching another person generates different emotions. Betrayal generates anger, hatred and resentment.

It also causes confusion and emotional pain because they want to know what actions led up to this. Million dollar question: how long has this been going on? The answer varies depending on the person that has been doing the cheating.

When a person cries after news like this, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are sad. Most of the time, it does. But if not, your day just got worse if you catch my drift.

So, to end my story I say this: Commitment is a word that is as strong as a sea. Always be honest because the truth will set you free.