Success

Lately I’ve been getting out of my comfort zone. I’ve been doing it in many ways.

Each time I do something new, it feels like I’ve uplevelled in some way. And it feels so natural, like yeah, of course I can do that. Why did it seem like a big deal before doing it?

It turns out that nothing is a big deal. If you want something, there will always be a compromise in going to get it. You can weigh out the pros and the cons and decide from there whether the price is worth the reward. Sometimes you don’t know if it’s worth it until you try it.

Life involves lots of risks. Emotion gets tied into that risk. We stop ourselves from doing things because we are afraid of how it will feel if we fail. We’re not afraid of failing, we are afraid of the feeling of failure.

But can’t feelings change? Can you remember a time when something seemed so big and when you look at it in hindsight it seems like such a minor inconvenience? Why do we torture ourselves with our thoughts so much?

Why must we overthink to do something? We think that if we think of all the ways things could possibly go wrong that we will be able to soften the blow if they do. Or we use them as excuses to not do the things we really want to do. There is no way to know the infinite ways in which things can unfold. You’re not omnipotent, you’re human.

It’s easier said than done but take that risk. The one you’ve been obsessing over for a while. The one you know could make your life better. The one that will help you grow as a person.

You don’t need to have it all figured out. We are all figuring things out along the way. People who have achieved high levels of success didn’t know the exact science of success before becoming successful. They took risks. And they failed. They know the emotion of failure too well.

Because emotions can be alchemized. Failure is success in disguise. Being able to ride the waves of emotions that come from failure builds resilience. And resilience makes you a more adaptable person. People who have achieved great success are some of the most adaptable people.

They are the people that know that to every problem, there is a solution. They don’t dwell on the fact that they haven’t found the solution. They don’t get stuck in self-criticism when things don’t go as planned. They feel the inner critic come in. They acknowledge it. And they move on.

They FEEL their emotions. They are not afraid of them. But they never dwell in them. That is the difference between someone who is successful and someone who is not. Successful people refuse to stay in the emotion of failure.

However, it must be pointed out that successful and unsuccessful people aren’t that different. They are the same. Any unsuccessful person can become a success. If they are willing to face uncomfortable feelings.

The unsuccessful person is the successful person in disguise. The key difference is that the successful person has once been the unsuccessful person. The unsuccessful person has never been the successful person.

The unsuccessful person has the choice to keep failing or quit. That’s why there are so few successful people in the world. It’s much easier to quit than it is to fail. Failure is a part of success. In fact, failure determines success.

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-Val