Strategies for positivity

In a world where negativity is pushed constantly, and people dramatise, hurt and push people away its hard to stay positive and happy. But this article aims to educate and evaluate methods to have a better outlook on life, taking advice from researched therapists and personal experience.

One feature of human nature I've noticed is the need for a good 'winge', this is completely healthy and in a social setting if its done minimally can help conversation flow, and allows people to have things they dislike united with other peoples dislikes. However one downside of 'winging' is the downward spiral of negativity that follows: constant talk of things that are going wrong in our lives can mean lack of optimism and lack of productivity or motivation. Don't get me wrong complaining with a friend is completely fine, but its important to back it up with something positive, this reinforcement means by talking to this person about the issue something constructive comes out of it. For example if something bad had happened, after you'd explained you could say 'but tomorrow's going to be better' or come up with a resolution to the problem you so badly pondered.

I've experienced the heartbreak end of a relationship and for anyone who also has experienced this knows it isn't easy but a coping mechanism for this and for other traumas or sadness is exercise. Many roll their eyes 'not one of these again', but through firsthand experience the adrenaline, intake of the senses: the sights, the smells can change your outlook on that day. Even if its just a twenty minute walk a day around the block this is a very good way to exit from inside your own mind.

Another way to had positivity and gratitude to your life is by adding to someone elses, whether this is helping a friend, supporting a family member in a time of need or buying a £2 sandwich at lunch time for a homeless person who hasnt eaten all day. Even if what your going through is tricky, theirs somebody who has it worse. I'm not saying your situation isn't tough but by counting your cards and saying out loud what your lucky to have you realise how lucky you really are to be living your life.

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” relates to everyones life, you are in control and life is what you make it, some circumstances are hard, things I cannot imagine, but when you have a positive outlook on things your whole perspective changes. I want to leave you with some final advice, I'm not therapist or professional just someone who has experienced a part of my life: be kind, look out for yourself, look out for others but always put yourself first and realise your not the only one struggling and there is light at the end of the tunnel.

A project I've seen from the start was started in 2021 in the thick of COVID its called 'Note of Kindnez', it aims to spread positivity across the internet in a storm of negativity and hatred with the media based of dramatic, hurtful news stories because thats what excites readers and gets them gripping to their sources. This project generates positive phrases in an attempt to allow you to realise that you are note alone as well giving you something to send to friends and family to let them know you appreciate them. The simplistic nature of the website means its 'down to earth' with the missiom statement of 'lightening up lives one message at a time'. Please go and check it out at https://noteof.kindnez.repl.co .