Myths about strong and weak individual

Who is a strong and weak individual?

Ever heard stop crying!! You are weak and weak people do not have a place in this world. Grow strong emotionally. Why are you behaving like you are the only one suffering? And all those endless questions that we have heard since childhood blocking the growth of your truest self! And no! I forgot!! What about, Boys do not cry?

We may have experienced these all things in our growing phases and now when we all are struggling to find real peace; these questions are back, haunting your beliefs and values. Those perceived notions, ways of tackling situations, belief that we are growing to be strong individuals, we are healed, we have become whole... Everything just drops in once instance and you have this strong feeling at you are back to square one.

Well, I want to bring forward some of the key points or you can say myths about stay strong!

1. It is really ok to cry!

Yes, trust me, crying is the best remedy when your heart feels heavy and all things are going south while you are standing in the north. They say weak cry, I believe it takes a strong individual to get the hell up after being knocked down and appreciate their struggle. Weak ones or the hypothetical strong ones are busy dodging their emotions.

2. It is ok to feel pain and be empathetic.

Empathy is an attribute of understanding other people’s situations and then acting accordingly. We all are so occupied with our own motives and self-created heaven notions that we fail to see other people can also be in hell. So, heads up if you have just helped someone to stitch their wounds and given your peace of happiness to them. Sharing what you have taken guts and weak ones do not have guts. So, if you feel the pain of others and want to help them so that they can also be happy! You have just crossed another milestone of being a strong human.

3. Kindness and humbleness still rule the world.

The idea of the modern world is so messed up that we are forced to believe that being busy, ignoring others, painting smiles, fakeness and rudeness are attributes of ‘new normal’. Machines or humans!! Just wake up! The world still revolves around the sun, still, nature is healing on its own, still, a woman is giving birth to a child, still, nature has the same principles and attributes. Hence, kindness and humbleness still rule the world. They are not the personal characteristics of a weak person. It is just an indication of normal human who believes in humanity and not hatred!

4. You can feel low and still be positive.

This is the worst thing we can ever do to each other. Stop being negative! You are so negative! Why are you sitting like this, you are giving away negative vibes! I think we fail to recognize that life is hard for everyone out there. If you managed to dodge a bullet of negativity, it does not mean it did not hit anyone else. Stop critiquing someone who is trying to be optimistic in his hard situation. Do not set a scale where being positive equals strong being. Sometimes, being strong also means just keep going. That is, it!

5. It is ok to say you are mentally exhausted.

There is no harm in accepting the fact that you are a human and humans have a mental limit. If you cannot multitask or handle so many things at one time, it doesn’t make you less of a super person. Take a break, recharge your batteries. Realizing that you need a break does not mean that you are not good enough. Stop giving the name of ‘hustle’ to your mental tiredness.

6. Follow what you believe.

Again, do what you want to do. May it be a bit girly, a bit manly, a bit tomboyish!! Whatever it is.. you are a whole being. Do not let anyone fool you with their idea of being strong or weak. Stuck in something, do what you feel like doing. Do not follow orders from some other person.

Things and life will always be hard. It is up to you if you want to come out of that situation as someone who is strong or someone who is weak. And weakness does not mean escape. Being strong does not mean to hide. It goes parallel. You can be kind and still be weak; you can be honest and still be strong!