Making Judgment Calls

It’s for the best. You are making the right decision. It’s the best thing or right thing to do. These are common phrases that people use every day. Its easy to say that to other people. But can you say it to yourself? That’s a hard pill to swallow.

Its so easy to tell someone what’s best for their lives. Its easy to see all the faults in someone else’s life. But what about your own? Do you really have room to talk? Or are you just projecting your frustration in your own life on to someone else? Let’s be real about it.

We always tell someone that they are too close to the mirror. Well, when you look in a mirror, you see your reflection, correct? You don’t see anyone else’s reflection. You cant tell a person to make changes in their lives. You can only offer advice. Whether they take it or not is on them.

When you share a bond with someone, whether in a relationship or a marriage, people have all the advice in the world. I hate to say this, but how can you give advice to someone about their relationship that you feel they don’t need to be in if you are in the same boat or have been in your situation way too long? If you are in what they call common law marriage relationship, (living together, been together more than 10 years, but not married), then what advice can you give? No offense, but the answer is none.

Unless you are going to or plan to get out of yours with your fifty-eleven excuses (because of the kids, I have nowhere to go, he completes me), then keep your opinions to yourself. People are on the outside of the situation looking in with so much advice to give but can’t take their own.

People love the past way too much. A person may go back to someone in their past. But so what? The person in their past may have changed. You never know. You have a nose problem and I’m not talking about allergies.

As long as someone is happy, that should be all that matters. If someone is dating a person that people don't approve of, unless its age related, then MIND YOUR BUSINESS! If that's who the person wants to be with, leave it at that. Its their decision and their consequences.

Misery loves company. Miserable people want happy people to be miserable too. A relationship/marriage could be going just fine but here comes that miserable person with something to say. They have to find something to say or do because its their nature to get something started. They have too much time on their hands and they need to find something to do.

Last thing I want to say, a relationship/marriage can change your whole life perspective. It could be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on your mindset and the person you are with. People are always on the outside looking in and are quick to judge a situation. My favorite quote: Talk about what you know instead of what you think you know. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.

I stand firmly on that statement. Why? Because if you can see something for what it is, then you know what you are talking about. A person can lose themselves being with someone or they become a better person.

To conclude I say this: Look in your personal mirror, it’s a reflection of you. Use your own judgment, thoughts and feelings to decide what’s best for you.