Honesty in a Dishonest World

Is it really that hard to be honest? Apparently so. Lying is a habit and it is a career for some people. People pretend very well.

A compulsive liar doesn't plan their lies. They are used to lying. It's something they were taught to do or something that they learned on their own. The lies that they tell are outrageous. For the record, there is no such thing as a little white lie.

The first lie that is told is the one people will remember. You know why? Because that person knows how to make people, “fall for them”, meaning, they know what people love to hear and what can capture their attention.

Prime example. Relationships/Marriages. In my opinion, this is one aspect in life where people lie the most. Some people are in “stuck’ mode. You tolerate each other because you are just used to being around one another. But you are living a lie because happy people don’t do this. Most of the time, one of the people in the relationship is out doing everything under the blue moon and then they come home like nothing has happened.

Never tell yourself that maybe one day…. What do I mean by that? Maybe one day, he/she will change. People have to make life changes on their own. No matter how hard you try, the person is who they are. It’s up to you if you will continue to sit around and believe the lies.

People go outside of their marriage every day. That’s nothing new. There is something lacking in the marriage so the spouse, whether man/woman finds that trait in another person. It could be love, attention or sex. Sometimes it’s a combination of all three. I cant speak on marriage because I’ve never been married so I wont make an attempt.

People always claim that there are no good men/women in the world. But you know why? Its because that man/woman has put their everything into every relationship that they had, possibly a marriage, only to go through constant drama about something. People get tired of their feelings getting hard and they develop trust issues. The human mind, body and soul can only endure so much.

People, people, why do you have to lie about your past? Its one thing to hide something but if your significant other is asking you something, its best that they hear it from you. The last thing you want is for someone to tell your significant other about your past. People add more to what they tell you than what actually occurred but the person really needs to mind their business. And the sad part is, they are only repeating something they heard or think that they know but 95% of the time, it’s a lie.

We all have a past, including the person playing “snitch” as I call it. A snitch is a compulsive liar too. This is the person telling your significant other about your past. 95% of the time, the person trying to do collateral damage (lying on the person) is an ex, baby moma/baby daddy. I call it like I see it. Yes, I said baby moma/daddy because some people don’t set the right boundaries. As a baby moma or a baby daddy, your only focus is on that child, not trying to make that person’s new significant other look bad. That’s a jealousy issue. Call it what you want to. I call it like I see it.

So, to end my story I say this: When you lie, you are stealing the truth. It’s best to be honest, as Nike would say, just do it.