If you are serious, you will not lose, you will lose if you are afraid.

"If you are serious, you will lose." It was used to ridicule people who didn't know the current affairs. It used to be a very relaxed atmosphere. Everyone was joking. If one person has to be serious and talk about one, two, three, four or five, the serious person will lose. It is probably to describe the person's low EQ; there is also a saying that when used in a relationship, two people begin to have a playful mentality, but one of them seriously wants to get married, presumably saying that the other party is delusional.

Apart from the above two specific cases, I really can't think of anything bad about being serious. Regardless of being a person or doing things, conscientiousness should be a virtue. People who are serious about being human will not let others down easily; people who are serious about doing things are trustworthy.

The person who said "If you are serious, you will lose", he saw that some people worked hard but did not get rewarded, and thought that it was a failure anyway, so why bother. What they hide is the fear of failure.

This is the same pot and the same root, people with thin waists should work hard to grow

According to Atkinson's achievement motivation theory, there are two types of motivation: one is to strive for success, the other is to avoid failure. Those who strive to succeed choose tasks with a difficulty of fifty percent, that is, moderate difficulty. The general choice to avoid failure is very hard and very easy. Because there is an excuse for failure, the task is too difficult. Those who strive to succeed are brave enough to challenge, and pay more attention to the process, because they understand that only that process is the only way for them to grow. They think that next time they try harder and find the right way, they will definitely succeed. Avoid losers, pay more attention to results, and therefore are easily hurt by failure, and attribute it to one's own ability and luck. They think that no matter how hard they work, there is no talent and luck is useful.

Attitudes are the beginning of polarization. Without a positive attitude, it is difficult to do things well.

Some people defend their ideals and values ​​with actions all their lives, live a serious life, and are worthy of respect. Ordinary doctors and nurses who are retrograde during the epidemic; writers who dare to speak up in the face of injustice; those who dare to defend their rights and interests; those who dare to expose their rights in the face of falsehood... They are serious, it is because of their existence that they are There were gleams of shimmering light that brought hope to the darkness.

There were times when I was not serious about my relationship when I was young, because I was afraid of being dumped and hurt, so I pretended not to be serious. From my life experience, pretending not to be serious can't avoid harm. Only if you truly face what you want in your heart, what price can you pay for this relationship? Mark the bottom line. If you can't accept it, just avoid it. That person is really not suitable for you. For example, Cinderella's sister can't wear crystal slippers. Do not do what you want to others, true love is rare, but be a person who dares to be responsible for love. People who play with their feelings are also eventually played with their feelings. Talking about a love seriously, no matter the result, will be a rare life experience.

A lot of today's young people are doing the opposite, talking about difficult relationships and doing simple jobs. Simple work becomes more and more boring, and it is difficult to have a sense of success, let alone any achievements, and it is not so good when it comes to love. Those who choose difficult jobs later have a successful career and fall in love easier.

Work is like the cornerstone of a person's life, it can provide an ordinary person with a source of income and a sense of security. Be serious about the work you choose, and the work will definitely live up to your efforts.