How to Stay Good When You Have Other’s Cruelty

Goodness does not have to be passive and gentle. And the manifestation of goodness is not limited to being good and sweet. Goodness in itself is endowed with extraordinary power.

Goodness is the ability to persuade the mind. Instead of trying to beautify reality with the emergence of idealism, you want to realize everything you feel and see what you want.

Many would rather feel anger, fear, or resentment than kindness. The mistake most people make when it comes to compassion and kindness is to deny what is happening. good".

It is very difficult to strike a delicate balance between being aware of what is happening and an unshakable trust that reminds you that you are capable of sincere love and compassion. To some extent, you can do this by directing your love and kindness to yourself and realizing that the negative feelings that arise within you are not your fault.

You should not perceive your negative emotions as a rigid personal quality or an obstacle

insurmountable for freedom, but simply consider them consequences of a certain style of thinking. But you can listen to your heart and at the same time accept with mercy any truth that the present carries.

Here are 5 ways to increase the power of goodness in your life:

1. Think about who was as good as you. And how did you treat him/her?

2. Watch how your mood is affected by a chance encounter with another person - for example, in a supermarket or a bank teller.

3. Think about your self-confidence. What factors helped increase/decrease it?

4. Try to thank someone every day. And then forget what happens between you.

5. Think about who admires you and why.

The worst thing in the cruelty of another is the destruction it brings. It is very simple to start believing that you are unworthy of something and to live based on this false belief. To return to goodness means to reconnect with the great potential of one and not allow yourself to be defined by the limited prejudices of others.

Even if others will not hurt you, their careless neglect or mere assumptions about you can be humiliating. Everyone can remember a situation when it was misunderstood, not observed, rejected, or treated unfairly.

Even if he treats you cruelly, it is necessary to understand the reason and decide not to be like your criminals. You don't have to be disrespectful. If you do nothing, then what will you do in the end?

Being good does not mean that you will sympathize with everyone around you or that you will agree with everything he or she does. And that doesn't mean you stop acknowledging what's wrong or stop trying to change.

You use the meditation of loving-kindness as a way to restore your innermost knowledge about this connection, breaking down the barriers you have raised and observing how close you all are.

6 ways to show loving-kindness in relation to other people:

1. Think of a situation when someone opposed you. What were the consequences? And who they were

the consequences when you objected?

2. Pay attention to strangers walking down the street or on the subway. As an exercise, imagine where they are going and how their day will go.

3. Follow your inner feelings when someone makes you suffer from your inept actions. Remember that the same feelings occur for those who cause you pain or harm.

4. Watch your inner feelings when you receive a gift from someone or show kindness to yourself. Remember that other people feel the same way.

5. Pay attention, take a closer look, and listen to someone you are used to ignoring.

6. Get involved in the meditation of loving-kindness, directed not only to other people but also to yourself.

The practice of loving-kindness means that you learn to truly look at the lives of others in correlation with your being. This implies your desire to care for other people not only because you like, admire, or owe them, but because your life is inextricably linked to theirs.