Get Rid of Negative Thoughts

Many times you must have noticed that a certain kind of negative thought comes into your mind which is really hard to forget as it kinda gets stuck in there forever.

It keeps on pestering us again and again, which makes us quite uneasy and apprehensive, and we wanna get rid of that negative thought without any further ado.

This predicament has two solutions basically. One is as soon as that thought comes into your mind, you divert your attention to something else.

You know like, watch a movie, read any book, read my blog, go out with friends, etc.

But these all are temporary solutions to a fairly permanent problem. As soon as you stop doing the particular action, the thought that was making you uncomfortable (it can be related to money, health, relations, or anything), would come back again.

So, now what's the permanent solution?

It's simple. To go to the root cause of that conundrum. That's the best possible way there is out there. But we all know this, and yet we are bugged by stress and anxiety all the time.

If you can analyze the problem completely, assess the root cause of it, see exactly what the problem is, and if you can either drop it or solve it, then there is no problem.

Take an example. Let's say you are really attached to someone who's very dear to you, and you love that person unconditionally, and by some chances, you two get separated (for whatever reasons).

Feels relatable? It's very general.

Say the person is no more. Now, what will you do in such a situation? How will you get rid of the negative thoughts then?

The thought would always remain there; you won't be able to just forget it all of a sudden. Temporary solutions are always there but like I said they are 'temporary'.

In such situations, you need to patiently ask yourself, who's actually becoming miserable?

A simple question but it does require some amount of courage and abundant patience from the inside.

You need a different type of thinking to think this way, a different route from all the clutter everyone is just stuffing in, without questioning anything.

You don't need to be a sheep by just following the crowd. Enough of following the "MASSES".

Ok so once you question yourself, the answer you will most probably get is, "of course me!! I am becoming morose".

Easy so far?

Now, who is the "me" here? Are you referring to your body? Is the body becoming morose? Who the hell are you, actually?

Can the body ever be sad? The body can suffer from pain, that's understandable but can it ever go through depression??

The answer is, it can't be. There isn't any way to make your body depressed! And the fun part is we all confuse our identities with our bodies. We think we are this body.

So now who's actually becoming sad when your body is fine?

Confused? Stay with me!

Ok, now some people will come up with the mind. "MY mind is becoming sad." Can the brain be sad? Try opening one and see exactly where it is becoming sad.

And what does the mind mean anyway? Memories!

Without memories what is left of the mind? You can't think about anything without memories. There can't be any thoughts without memories.

There is nothing other than a bunch of thought which can be labeled as a 'mind'. Savvy? No thoughts would ultimately mean 'no mind'.

So, thoughts come from memories, and how exactly are these memories formed? By recording whatever experiences we go through, right?

That's what a memory is.

So, who's turning sad again? Is it the memories? Well, can they really become sad? We should at least know that who exactly is becoming sad, otherwise what's the whole point? Makes sense, right?

I mean is there even something or someone that's actually becoming sad or is it just an illusion or a figment of our imagination?

Maybe whatever I am saying makes sense or is utter shit.

What I am basically trying to say is that MAYBE there actually isn't anything inside you that's becoming sad.

Let's take this one step further. What's the closest relationship one can have in this world?

A mother-child relationship. The most intimate relationship (in a general way).

The kind of attachment a mother has for her new-born baby supersedes any other kind of attachments.

Why? Because that child is attached to the closest possible way from the body of the mother or the feeling of "I, me, mine".

The boyfriend doesn't come out of his girlfriend's body. But the baby literally came out of his mother's body. So, for the mother, her baby is just an extension of "I" (her). For her, the baby is a part of her.

Now just assume hypothetically, the new-born baby couldn't survive for long. And the mother is tormented. So again, is it her body from which the baby came, that's going through the emotions?

It's the mother's feelings related to the child that is causing this, right?

But here the mother is considering her body as "hers". Like we all do. We think we own the body.

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