Friendly Reactions

What is a friend? Do good unto others as if you would want to be done to you is what the phrase is. To its core, a friend can be someone who is equally there for you as you are them. With similar interests & curiosity, you venture into various adventures to enjoy each other's company as well as support one another. Not just to people you recognize but to yourself. Being a friend to yourself in a way your reactions to others and life doesn't negatively bring you down. Knowing how to react to things is important in an ideal world, especially when it comes to an ever-changing society. Having healthy friendships and positive reaction towards a forever evolving world is key to a better you.

In dark times friendships are tested. Challenging concepts such as loyalty, reliability, relate-ability, & connect-ability helps determine who stays & who goes. In these moments the focus becomes tethered to these concepts in order to validate who we are to each other. Whether we know it or not our lives can depend on who we have around us and who we choose to surround ourselves by; though sometimes it's not always constant nor we may not have a choice in the matter. What tends to remain the same is how we react.

The reaction is key because it is how It's interesting to think about how we react to things can change someone's perspective on things. Something good or bad can take place and during these times when situations occur, our reaction changes the outcome. How we react to things changes our perception of events. 

Your reactions to things as a child are different from when you're an adult. When you're younger life is freer and the stress of responsibility is not weighing on your shoulders. I can remember growing up everything seemed easier because I didn't have to go to work or pay bills but the stress of things like school and understanding the struggles of growing up is a thing that happens.

Naturally, how we react to things stem from the experiences that we have prior and evolves into something that makes us develop a defense or way of interacting with people. I like to think by default we react to things very positive and open to the possibility of learning something new. Growing up learning something new and experiencing life is what forms our way of reactions. 

If we react to something negatively it's usually stemming from something in our past that resulted in something negative thus more likely trusting that the negative will happen most of the time without the option of the opposite occurring. It sucks that when you are so profaned to something negative happening in your life that when positive things begin to happen or continue to happen you become cautious or paranoid of something bad happening. The hint that this thing that happens comes at a cost to you one way or another.

By not knowing the cost thoughts of doubt and worth comes into play. Things like "is this worth it?" or "if I don't know then I'm not going to go into it." start to fuel the brain. In modern cases, this is very normal to believe because it is needed for someone's survival and progression. Our past becomes reasons why our thoughts become true and the more they happen the stronger our negative thoughts become to the point where it becomes a reaction. A numb type feeling where you don't even notice.

Something that I came to realize is that unless someone else comes into your life and makes a strong enough change to where a positive outlook is all you can rely on, having a positive reaction to life around you is hard. With all the years of sadness and bad interactions, it begins to be too much to just have an automatic negative response to life.

When it comes time to look back and see what you accomplish you notice regret and the patterns that led to what you didn't want. Doing this you start to overthink (as one does)  and something changes within oneself. An idea or curiosity about wanting to change enters the brain. Being surrounded by friends and allies help the development of your reactions. You start to be open to things that make you uncomfortable because since you're so used to the negative by exposing yourself, it can be positive and you start to build momentum. 

The continuous notion of getting outside your comfort zone to not only build character but open your mind to things you thought you knew the whole time. The ideas that all you knew and shielded yourself from was just a fragment of the life you lived and sometimes were subjected to. The circumstances of life then become just circumstances.

Time-traveling wouldn't change it because its what has become of who you are. You now that notices and is taking steps to move on is what is making progress. In doing so, we slowly develop a sense of positive reaction. So in life sometimes by surrounding ourselves with positivity and dreams, opportunities arise for us to make a change that can make us better than who we use to be.