Hey there! Do you believe humans are forever students? Because I do! Because we are learning every day, with every mistake or with every step, with every new person we meet or every old person we lose touch with. Learning is a forever-going process, but let’s also make room for learning one of the most important skills: ‘FORGIVENESS’
Why am I counting it as ''the most important skill''?
For your own peace and happiness.
How?
If you are hurt or offended, that agony might always be with you, but your skill of forgiveness will help ease its grip on you. Let’s see how….
Who is never hurt by others? never offended by anyone? I guess no one is. Everyone at some point suffers due to others, maybe someone’s own parents abuse him, or someone is bullied by his mates, or hurt by his lover, or is always left out. But if you hold that pain, it’s you who is going to suffer even more. If you let negative emotions overpower your happy ones, you will find yourself in resentment, anger, and a sense of injustice. That anger from the office or school will affect your family at home if you do not learn to make peace with yourself. You already had a bad past, and this way, you are going to ruin your present too. You have to learn to let go, not for others but for yourself. Letting go doesn’t mean taking revenge on the one who hurt you, nor does it mean that they don’t deserve punishment for what they have done. Letting go is just related to ‘you’ only; it just means not holding a grudge against anyone and giving yourself a sense of peace and hope. Forgiveness works like magic. It relieves you from the inside, improves your mental health, makes relationships stronger, and provides empathy and compassion for others.
How to practice forgiveness? Recognize the value of forgiveness and the one you need to forgive. Analyze the situation and emotions of both sides. Why did he/she do that to you? Why did they say whatever they said? If that was actually true. Why not keep our ego aside and improve ourselves? If it was not true, why even bother and spend our precious energy on it? This introspection will help you know the reason for your suffering and the place where it is coming from. Remember, people who hurt others are themselves hurt and just have not healed yet. (But it is not an excuse to hurt others). Release the control of the negative emotions and the person who hurt you. You will find yourself relieved from a lot of burdens once you master this skill.
What if it’s you who needs to be forgiven? The first person who needs to accept your sorry is you yourself! Everybody makes mistakes, but what’s more important is that you accept them. If you are honestly feeling sorry for your faults and promise yourself not to repeat them again, even God will forgive you. All you need to do is honestly acknowledge your mistakes and their effects on others. If you realize that the fault was somehow yours, speak of your sincere regret before the one who was hurt by you. Remember, forgiveness is a process, and everybody takes a different amount of time to forgive others. You can’t force anyone to forgive you; just hang in there and wait for them to do so. If they still can not, maybe share this article with them:)
All the very best in learning to let go ^_^
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About the Creator
Varnika Agarwal
The writer is a theoretical physics geek with thousands of hobbies, writing being one of them. She has been writing self-help non-fiction content on Substack. She wants to fill the reader's life with positivity, productivity and calmness.
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