five reasons why you suck

5 reasons why you suck

Usually when i write things like this, they’re not towards a specific person.

But here’s the catch - if you’re offended by any of it, then it probably means that it is about you.

Most of the time, they’re a collection of my observations, experiences, and personal reflections of things i need to work on.

So, here’s a quick run down, and a few reasons why you suck:

1. You take social media too seriously

Social media is supposed to be fun. It’s supposed to be networking. It’s a digital arena for doctored photos and anonymous-commentary. It’s a place where you can actually stalk people that you do- and don’t- like. It’s a place where you can create a digital mask for yourself and feel good about feeding that to those people who care to look. Why wouldn’t you create a positive face? And if you decide that you’re not “fake” and actually post sad things going on in your life, then i’m sorry to tell you, that you’re probably just looking for attention.

I’ll admit that it’s the case with me. I use my social media as a way to connect to masses amounts of people that i may not otherwise if we didn’t have facebook. I post things I find funny, and intelligent - i post photos that make me look good, and post some things going on in my life for those dopamine hits of likes and comments. Why wouldn’t i?

You know what I don’t post about though? My personal relationships, my family, and my true ideas and thoughts. Why? Because they’re mine. And i don’t want to base anything having to do with those things on how many people on social media approve of them. They’re my personal situations, and therefore, not yours.

2. You have no empathy

The world is not here to serve you. I’m serious. We’re all born with this little thing called an ego that makes us believe that everything happening around us is either for or against us, but that’s completely wrong. We are here to contribute to what’s around us, and respect the processes that are out of our control.

Most people hate the concept because it means they can’t just drudge up conflict anymore. And what’s conflict usually born from? Ignorance and lack of empathy.

People can have it worse than you.

There are situations that occur you’ve never experienced before

You know those few times you hit a low in your life for whatever reason? Someone out there has experienced that low, x1000. And you’ll never know it, because you don’t care. You only care about you.

3. You care too much about what other people think

Clothing, money, cars, things, your relationships - these don’t matter to anyone but you.

Why do you need other people’s approval?

Don’t you realize that means that you don’t approve of yourself?

At the end of the day, everyone goes home and cares about themselves first and foremost.

Yes, we can care about other people. And yes, other people can care about you. But only as much as you care about yourself.

While people have their opinions of you, you won’t ever be able to convince them otherwise, and if you do, you have to work to maintain that.

And for what? Your life is so short here on earth, do you really want to waste time on listening to people who don’t know you?

This doesn’t mean be mean and wreckless in what you do or say, but rather acknowledge that no matter where you go, people will have opinions of you, and whatever those opinions are, reflect them more than you, so you can let them go and move on your own merry way

4. You don’t care to learn about anything anymore

The days you’re dropped off at a building for 8 hours and assumed to want to learn new things are O V E R.

If there’s one thing you should’ve learned, is how to freaking LEARN.

We have way too much information at our fingertips, but we’re all too self important to look into the why behind 95% of anything.

Skimming headlines and statuses make us experts and we feel completely entitled to give a qualified opinion on almost anything these days.

Well, stop. Because you’re an idiot. Care about something? Learn more about it.

Don’t care or don’t know about something? A 10 minute google search doesn’t mean you know 2% of it

There are people who dedicate their free time, careers, or life to researching and knowing something fully, and you should respect that. But, you don’t.

5. You depend on someone else for your success

This is through and through one of the biggest issues i’ve dealt with recently. “If only my boss acknowledged how hard I work so I get paid more “ or “if only that person loved me a particular way”

What a massive burden to put on someone or something, even. Do you lay your whole life and responsibility and happiness at the feet of someone who at the end of the day should also only be looking out for themselves?

Destination addiction it’s called - if only I get this one particular thing from this one person and I'll be happy. Nope. not true.

Get a job that pays more, and ask for the higher pay, if you don’t get it- leave

A person not giving you the attention the way you want? Then leave.

There is someone else who will love and respect you for you out there.

No one is going to walk into your life and say “now is the time you need to do this” or “this is the moment you’ve been waiting for and here i am to make everything true”

You have to learn to love yourself alone.

There is a big difference between being alone and lonely, and you need to be alone. You need to understand what makes you tick, what makes you happy, what makes you stressed, and what makes you healthy so that you can build yourself to be the person you were meant to be.

In doing so you become an example for those around you, and everyone’s bullshit literally fades away.

Make boundaries. Hold to them. Love yourself. Sit in silence. Listen more than you talk. Understand and respect that you don’t know the full story about anything or anyone. In fact, your story isn’t full either, so why don’t you spend time writing that one- instead?