In life, you will always have a time where you are put into a situation which is a first time. For every reaction you give, the action you take, the step you proceed, there is a first time. I remember mine! everyone remmebers. And We remember in such a way, when we see it feels like today, Now. You feel that emotion right infront. You will have that tears, you will have that smile on face. you will be always at that stage where you can say, I was once like that, now have totally changed.
I would like to give some of my First times. Including describing of my fear, my tears, my emotional outcomes. This story is to share with you on my experience and make sure to give a message which helps and gives a hope , you can get stronger irrespective of whatever situation you are put into. you can, and you will always rise. :)
First time- Age 7: fight at home. Elders at home always fight and it is in everyones place. No one is perfect and no house is without fights. I was sitting on a swing. I heard some comments, fights from the kitchen. I rushed and was standing at the corner , listening watching their expresssion when they were fighting there. I had no words to give out. That was my first time looking at my own family people fighting. I was in tears, i was devastated, Every kid would have always thought , thier family is the perfect one. Their people are the perfect ones. anyone can fight, but not thier parents, not their family. I had a very sad yet not able to decribe that emotions. I was sad, i was upset, i was super scared. I did not know how to , or whom to or what to ask. Why was that going on?. The first time you see someone your own fight, is a bad feeling. it is a negative feeling. I do not remmeber exactly how it turned out well, but the next day, i could see the same people eating together with my grandfather. So that made a 7 year old girl, forget the emotion and move on. I am glad it turned out easy so early, not everyone will have this immeadiate positive reaction, but beaware. Always have hope. Do not give away your childern's hope.Be their strength.
First time - Age 16: When i had my Periods first time. It was a weird emotion. Did not know what is going on. Mom had explained. We had to gothrough. Had a weird experssion at school, do not know what to tell your Male friends when you are returning after 10 days leave. Do not know how to express what you are feeling with your teachers, other friends. You are told to be careful at all times. you are aware, scared, weird, tired, eating different kinds of food for immunity. Vomiting. OH my god.crazy ride. just to give a suggestion- it is normal, it is pure, it is fine, it is okay to have any kind of emotions expressed. All are respected. Do not worry. This too shall pass. Be careful, Be hygine, be fearless in expressing what you are feeling.
First Time- Age 18: When you get your PUC 2 ranking. PUC 2 - PCMCS %. The whole village will be interested in your marks. People will be waiting like an eagle , who watches the water closely and cathes a fish when it is time. It is horrible. It was a torment. If you have a cousin, who is of same age then your life is a comparison disaster. whatever you do , however you do, you are always compared. you are always spoken as less of when compared to her/him. We have to just go with time to make sure, everyone forgets the %. It is not easy if you are on target. I had my marks out. People were teasing, people were expressing it is less, waste, no use, i wont be able to get into Engineering. I did get a ***** ranking. so definitely it is bad. But everyone picks on you, it is tought o even express what you are going through. It was my horrible time. I had struggled going to tutions from one village to another, had travelled through river, bus.My grandfather always helped throught this. yet such bad ranking. I was hurt, i was sad. I was scared, i was worried where in i might not get engineering. I wanted it badly. I wanted it soooo badly, i struggled, My mom and dad are the only ones helped. And got a seat with loan and stuff. Do not give up, Parents are always the strength . they will help no matter what. That is what i leaerned. If they can do this blindly, without thinking about money, without thinking about Anything but just for their kid sake, we can do anything for them. They are the strength for me then, now and always , forver:) I could finish degree, get a job etc... but the feeling is still new. Crazy times .
A message here is- everyone has their own abilities. everyone will grow. Do not compare, do not torture your kid. Understand them, help them to know thier strengths. Give your strength, give your hope and make sure they are always known, recognised, feels blissful.
First Time-Age 19: When i had to move to hostel for ENGINEERING. This was my toughest stage. Moving out of your own home, your comfort zone. I had to go to a new town, new city, scary city. I had to move, find a PG stay and study for next 4 years. Dad found a PG , time had come to stay , shift and dad was leaving back. It was a horrible feeling. I was crying, crying very hard. I had no choice but to stay in PG. I was feeling suffocated, felt like why did i even come? why did i take this decision. Why i wanted to study.sooo many questions. soo many mxed feelings. There was not a time i had not missed my family and cried in those 4 years. Every exam, needed them to wish, needed thier strength, every result , badly needed mom to tell me" oh do not worry , it will be great". I wanted to make sure i never fail, not even in my dreams. I had to study make sure i pass, attend interviews and get a job. My Grandmother was all along with me. Would call her every night, talk to her, cry feel bad. She would always build strength, she would always put in courage. All their blessings, all thier help, all thier strength - i could make it. I could pass, i could learn, get that blessing and got into a job.
Every Parent will and should always be the strength for their kids. Every kid is unique and will always come to line when the time comes. Will always create wonder in thier own way. Have faith trust them, give them that liberty, help them when they fail and always be thier wall for support and lean on.
In life there are times, where you are stuck and you just cant come out. Try figuring a way out. There is always a way out. There is always , you can do it. you will do it. If i can, you can too. I have always followed a quote from Swami Vivekananda, " Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is reached." Have a folower to always find answers, work on your abilities, nver give up on any of your strength, always have hope and always hardwork. Be kind. Life is always fair and you will always have light towards your path.
-HU
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Harsha Upadhyaya
Cyber security consultant by profession. Passion is - Poetry writer, cooking, travelling, drawing. True believer of "what goes around, comes back around". spread kindness. be happy . Always smile :)
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