Decisions that changes our life

Decisions that changes our life

Do we happily die when we make them?

Do we make decisions thinking it could be the last one we make? Are we as human capable of thinking through each decision or are we just controlled by ventrolateral prefrontal cortex and orbitofrontal cortex?

I think we all like to imagine that we make decisions after a careful though process and well planned where we think of consequences, but in reality, our emotions dictate most of what we do.

I am not perfect, not even in the slightest despite what I like to think but am I really “controlled” without a real say or thought LOL in it.

Our brains aren’t fully developed till around the age of 18 years of age, and we truly cant comprehend consequences until that age, but we still asks of our children daily to “think about it” and plan what they want to do, despite the fact they actually aren’t capable of this.

In my life I have a few life altering decisions, that if they were in a cartoon, they would have had thunder and rumbling and some sort of eerie music, I am sure.

1) First life changing decision - I was 20 years old super excited as was on my way to Australia from Denmark for 5 months working-holiday to live with a lovely family. I could not wait for this experience of a lifetime and when I had completed this holiday, I was going home to study Russian to become a translator. As life does, it had other plans for me and within a few weeks I my ex-husband and fell head over heels in love as only a (nearly) teenager can. When my 5 months was up, I jumped on my plane back to Denmark thinking how sad it was that Denmark was so terrible far away.

2) Next decision that changed my life - Few weeks afterwards my now ex jumped on a plane from Australia to Denmark to see me and he stayed a few weeks and when his time was up, he very reluctantly jumped on his plane to Australia with a layover in Brussels.

In true Hugh Grant style, he ran up to the service desk and booked a ticket back to Denmark from Brussels and did not get on his plane back to Australia. I have no doubt Hugh Grant would be jealous of this this HAHA.

3) Final and complete life changing decision made: After a couple of months of living in Denmark, it was becoming clear that the immigration rules and the fact I didn’t have a job/study/my own place to live would make it very hard to start our life together. So, we jumped on a plane to Australia to start our chapter together.

This decision at the time seemed hard, but more in the fact I was sad to not see my family for a while, I never thought it thorough that it was the last time I flew out of Denmark as a true whole hearted Dane.

I often think back to this time and wonder, what if I had not made those choices, what if I had stayed in Denmark at age of 20, would my life still be the same? Would I still have ended up in another country? Was this my “destiny”?

I didn’t make those choices thinking they would be the last decision I made or that these decisions would completely and utterly change my life forever and by jumping on these planes, so many other decisions were already made.

The big question is, would I still make them if I understood the consequences and if they were to become my last decisions I ever made? ABSOLUTELY, as without I would have my amazing, beautiful children, would not have met my now beautiful partner and I would not have so so many incredible friends in my life. Yes, it is a tough and maybe I would tweak a few things here and there, but overall, I think my ventrolateral prefrontal cortex and orbitofrontal cortex made a good decision with the information it had at the time without planning for the future..

LETS ALL BE HAPPY WITH DEICIONS AND IF WE ARENT, LETS ATLEAST COME TO TERMS WITH THEM AS NONE OF US CAN CHANGE THE PAST… if you can and your reading this, maybe you sell a book LOL