Creating Lasting Happiness and Filling the Void Within

I don't care what you do or what you become as long as you're happy. Just have fun.

This has been a good goal for my mother for the rest of my life. Or just an example of his unconditional love, and it’s a wonderful request when you think about it, and something I didn’t seem to be. In the end, I failed because I was unhappy.

If he wanted me to be a brain surgeon, I would shoot him. I knew that I had to study a certain subject, get a degree, and get a good look at the inside of people's heads.

There is no clear path to happiness. To me, "just having fun" was like trying to find a place without a map or an idea of ​​how long it would take. I had been in a state of anxiety for years.

Stumbling, I was chasing after something that made me happy. I wasn't even sure how you should feel. All I knew was that I felt happy when I was using drugs, and I found love in many boys.

But nothing lasted long, and I needed more to fill it, chasing it forever.

I experienced complete forgetfulness in 2006, when I developed psychosis caused by drugs. Do you know all those clichés about crazy people who think they are the born-again Jesus or that they can read your mind? Yes, that was me. My mother said that when I finally found it, I smelled like cat food.

So, after the episode went down and the depression of the next year was over, I started researching what had happened to my brain and found out what happiness meant to me.

To me, it's not a happy ending. That feeling just gets what you think you want, and it doesn’t last. That doesn't mean I'm running away from exciting things; Thank goodness it's just a matter of time. And I have stopped chasing you too much.

Happiness as a Third-Party Product

I am convinced that happiness is a result of other things. Be kind, develop problem-solving skills, endure life's hardships, be thankful, be peaceable, let go of your anger, do the following.

But the greatest achievement is that, for me, finding unity with others is when I feel very spiritually awake, because we are all alone in our heads. Expressing myself emotionally with someone is when I feel most happy.

Instead of chasing after pleasures and achievements, find out which options make you feel good, and make them feel good about you - and commit to making those decisions regularly.

You Do Not Need to Dispose of Material Items

For some time I did not fully understand the Buddhist concept of rejection. I thought that in order to be free from suffering, I would have to give up the causes of suffering: spending money, having sex, drinking, and looking in the mirror for too long.

But the thing is, I'm a creature of the senses, in a world full of good things; why don't you enjoy it? These things in themselves are not evil, they are the ideas we put in them and the attachments we have that create problems.

If you expect that finding the job of your dream will fill in the gaps in your life, you will face problems sooner or later.

Enjoy the material things, but remember that lasting happiness comes from those choices you have made in the past.

Release

Most of my dissatisfaction was due to my failure to let things go, whether those were feelings of rejection in the past, or concerns about rejection that occurred in the future. I used to hate the phrase “quit.” Okay, so how do you do that then? What do you do to let something go?

What I have learned over the past few years is that letting go, more often than not, means doing nothing. And doing nothing is as optional as screaming and screaming.

Doing nothing gives you the space between how you feel and your next good act. Staying in that space means that I am not a slave to my emotions, or more accurately, I am no longer afraid to feel it.

I see the feeling, I write it down and I see what it is - a desire for my pride, a knock on my self-confidence. And rather than trying to get rid of it quickly by criticizing someone, bragging about it, seeking revenge, or getting drugged, I believe that it will end.

No matter how we feel, it always passes if we let it. So, enjoy the excitement while it is here, and know that if you do not, as long as you make good choices, it will come back.