Can you Love someone from the past?

When you love someone, you can’t stop thinking about them.

When you love someone, you look at their pictures and think of the wonderful, amazing memories you guys once shared.

When you love someone, you constantly think and I mean THINK everyday wondering, if they’re happy without you. If they’re missing you. Hoping for you to reach out, and talk.

When you love someone, you try to distract yourself by dating other people, to hide your own feelings, while, wasting their time and energy because you’re too stubborn to tell the person you truly love, that you care for them.

When you love someone,…you can’t tell them.

Why is that?

You’re afraid of rejections? Everyone is.

You’re afraid they’re not going to wanna talk to you? How could you know, if you just stay silent and watch from afar.

You’re afraid that you’re too good for them? Nobody’s perfect.

It’s okay to be afraid. Build up the courage to talk to them. If you can talk to other people and date them just like that…you can do it.

But try not to waste anyone time or your own trying to hide your true feelings. You will only make it worse but feeling it deeper then before. Stop being stubborn. Stop being selfish and TAKE THAT RISK!

If you don’t take that risk, you going to be too late. You’re going to be stuck somewhere miserable and unhappy.

You think you’re constantly thinking and remembering about this particular person and dreaming of having a life with them and even having a family just come to you out the blue?

No. You had help. From Him!!

God put those memories in your life. God can put the memories of someone from your past back in your life. Not as a test though. He put them in your life for a reason but now you have to figure out is…why?

You can ask God and be like “Why? This person hurt me. This person I really do care about but I’m not sure we can go back the way we used to be. Why should they come back in my life?”

He may give you an answer OR the answer is in your memories.

I can tell you one thing. Leave the past in the past. Create new beginnings.

You’ve been in toxic relationships, so have they.

You have trust issues, so do they.

You have anxiety, baby they have anxiety too.

You starting to remember the good memories and how safe you felt and you’re feelings for them is getting stronger…it’s because they’re thinking about you too.

You can’t run from those feelings until you confront them.

You need to talk to each other.

You can bring up old issues and discuss it. Face to Face though because social media sucks. You can’t tell or see about people feelings through the internet. Don’t work like that.

If you can look at that person and actually talk to them and then really tell them…that you miss them….you’re going to break that separation barrier that should have never happened in the first place. That’s the first step.

The next steps are the walls. Your walls. Your person walls. These walls were built on broken promises and trust and a lot of anxieties. This next step is bringing each other walls down. Now understand this is going to take sometimes because you guys been separated for so long. It’s a long bridge. But each wall that gets broken down, you’re getting closer to the one important piece that you will promise to cherish forever. The heart. Your heart. Their heart.

When you can look at that person eyes and tell them that you got them, no matter what people say, you walls will start to crumble. You’ll be able to open up more.

You’re going to have a strong relationship that will get turned into A committed relationship. I’m talking marriage and family…building a future together. You’ll be going on the right path.

And here’s another thing, people need to stop telling other people who is right for them.

I’m talking about friends. I’m talking about parents. I’m talking about family members. I’m talking about anyone you come in contact with that tells you that you shouldn’t be with a certain person that you’ve been thinking of the most, because of their history, that’s not their business.

They’re not dating them. They’re not marrying them.

That’s between you two and God only! Stop letting people in your relationship.

I will get a lot of negative for that but understand it’s between you two and God.

God does not judge. God forgives when we repent for our sins.

That’s why most relationship is built in secrets. It helps relationship grow strong when it just the two of you until the day you two decided to make it public. And you can be in a committed relationship for 6 months to a year or maybe two years and realize you wanna marry this person…you had already proposed.

People will get jealous. People will get angry and disappointed.

Them are the ones that don’t wanna see you happy. I don’t care if it’s a family members.

They don’t wanna see you happy.

No negative energy or thoughts allowed. Let me tell you something and this how you know someone loves you…if they’re willing to fight for the relationship, prove everyone wrong about the relationship…you have yourself a good one.

Again…People will be jealous. Family members will be angry and upset. If they can’t be happy that you have someone that you can go home to on a bad day, that comforts you and talk to you, works with you, support you on your decisions, and doesn’t put you down when things go bad…you may have to walk away for awhile.

Like I said prove them wrong. They’re a changed person and they’re still holding on what happened in the past….PROVE THEM WRONG!

Love is hard. Love can hurt. Love…is in all of us. We just sometimes have to be careful who we give it to. God always Love us. He always send someone to Love us. Not for the nice things. The hair. The body. But You as a person. Don’t go out rushing for Love. Let it come to you. Let them come to you. Love can be a new person or someone from the past.

Understand, that Loving, Caring, and Trusting someone is a new beginning.