At a certain age, people have to focus on themselves

Some things should obviously give their best effort, but because they care too much about what others think, put part of their attention on others, and lose sight of the other, naturally they will not get the desired results.

The more you care about what others think of you, the easier it is to make a mess of your life.

It is important to know that most of the troubles in life come from the fact that we care too much about others and put all our attention on others and forget to focus on our own lives.

People live, not for others, but themselves.

When you're young, you can still indulge yourself and live as you wish, but when you get older, you have to learn to collect your heart and focus on yourself.

1、Know yourself, know life

I have heard this saying, "If you want to influence the world, you must first be able to influence yourself.

To achieve great things, we must first "know ourselves", and then "external".

If you don't even understand yourself, how can you make a career?

Very often, what prevents you from moving forward is not others, but yourself, the self that does not clearly understand how much weight they have.

Although knowing yourself is a very difficult thing, as the saying goes, "eat the bitterness of the bitterness, the only way to be a human being", only the correct understanding of themselves, to develop a realistic goal so that their life road more and more smoothly.

To be a human being, you have to know yourself first, and then know life, so that the original fuzzy road slowly becomes clear.

Compared to people who run before they learn to walk, only first know yourself, understand your strengths and weaknesses, and the right medicine to develop a life plan, to make their efforts to get twice the result with half the effort, not because of over-ambitious and take the wrong path.

People to a certain age, to have self-knowledge, to make the right choice, take the right road.

2、Know how to let yourself go after the event

A thing no matter what the outcome, the past is the past, dwelling on it, it is difficult for you.

Some things are not to hold on to the results of the change, your "can not" delay only your own.

Some people are blinded by hatred and think they can start over after revenge, but they don't think about how they should live with themselves after getting revenge.

I've seen people take revenge as their goal in life and pay for it all, and their life is completely focused on "revenge", but they killed themselves after getting revenge, for no other reason than they didn't know what the point of continuing to live was.

Revenge will not change the past, but will only hinder the future.

Why punish yourself with other people's mistakes and let your future life be in hatred?

Some grudges are not reported on the spot, and you should learn to let go of them afterward, or you will only get yourself deeper and deeper into the hole.

People live to learn to look forward, know how to let what has happened to turn the page, let others go at the same time, also let yourself go, so that their lives are no longer wrapped in regret, hatred, and can put down the shackles of the heart, live the life they want.

3、Know how to calm down and deep plow yourself

Life is not as good as nine out of ten things, it is difficult to be calculated for yourself.

Many things, not complaints can be solved, you say more complaints, are not able to resist their courage to face, no longer stay in the mouth to say, but take practical action to solve.

Now can not solve the matter, does not mean that the future can not be solved, know how to sink too deep plowing ourselves, to make the road of life no longer a problem, into one after another to support their stepping stones to become better.

Therefore, do not give up on yourself because the road under your feet is difficult, try to get through, time will give you the answer you want.

In the troubled world, the outside life is exciting only for a moment, after the bustle of the rest is often endless emptiness, rather than let yourself sink in a moment of pleasure, it is better to spend time on deep plowing.

Only if you become better yourself, you can get more choices in life.

It is better to rely on others than on yourself, only knowing how to struggle at the age of deep plowing themselves, to get everything you want.