A Matter of Perspective

Some people in the world are just a yes or no type of person. Its good that the world doesn’t operate on yes and no. If it did, we would be in trouble. If everything was yes, that's a problem. If everything was no, that's also a problem. Unlike Burger King, we can’t have it our way.

In the world today, so many people are a yes type of person. We call them free-hearted and say that people take their kindness for weakness. A yes person only says yes because they like helping people. They don’t like hurting other people’s feelings or letting someone go without something. But these are the most mistreated people in the world. Why? Because sometimes, people do things only because they know that person is going to say yes without a doubt. Sad but true.

Then you have the no person. Straightforward, no, I’m not gonna do it. A no person, in some cases, is right. Because the things people ask them for are things that they have a reason to say no to. These are the people that are always asked for money and free transportation. I’m keeping it 100 and you as my readers know it’s true as well. For some reason, the people that say no are exactly who people target when they don’t get that yes person to do what they want them to do. Then, they think someone has done them wrong. Well, NO, they didn’t.

People think life should operate on yes or no but it doesn’t. Everyone has feelings and people need to realize that. If I’m not sure that I want to do something or not, then who are you to tell me any different? Unless I’m your child, key world “child,” this concept doesn’t apply and I mean child, not grown adult. I know about the laws and commandments, I don’t dishonor God or any of that, but we are not living in the olden days, hundreds of years ago or the time of speak when spoken to. We have aged out of that.

As a child, no is not acceptable. Talking back is not acceptable. But as an adult, don’t reply and shut up, should not be in a parent’s vocabulary. This is also a part of the yes-no concept. You should not tell an adult child that they don’t have the right to speak their mind. That’s like telling a dog not to bark. Good luck with that.

Then there is maybe and I don’t know. These are 2 that are said way too much. Sometimes, people use them together. That’s even worse. Maybe, but I don’t know. That doesn’t even make sense. Give them a question. With a response like that, it will confuse you because you are thinking, I asked them a question and they put 2 answers together.

People have a problem saying I don’t know. It’s because they are embarrassed. If you don’t know something, its nothing to be ashamed of. But be honest instead of acting like you know something and you don’t. Because when you don’t know something and you pretend you do, you make a big mess of things and a fool out of yourself.

Life is a process for everyone. No matter which of these individuals you choose to be, it affects your life. Your life can be cut short or you can make your life a short process. No matter which of these categories describes you, it is who you are. That is just your nature. There will be people that will not accept you or people who don’t like you. That’s the way of the world.

To end my story I say this: You know your mindset and its up to you if you want to change. Don’t let people make you feel bad, belittle you or make you feel ashamed.