8 Things You Will Regret Not Letting Go of Sooner in Your Life

Accepting some parts of your life have reached an inevitable end can be difficult but you just have to let them go. Learn to close the door, once a chapter is complete and you must turn a new page. What matters is finding the strength to leave the past and things that are not meant to be. Psychology believes the most common cause of our frustration today is our stubbornness to hold onto things long after it's time to let go. We often hold on to the hope that things will eventually go the way we imagined and then our lives remain complicated when they don’t. The following are common things we often regret holding onto until the bitter end.

1. The Way Things Used to Be

You need to understand that you are not the same person you were a month or a year ago because life is always evolving and you need to learn and grow. Though you can’t control everything that happens you can control your attitude about what happens. By learning to change your attitude positively to situations, you will begin to master change rather than allow it to master you. So, remain teachable because there is always room for a fresh idea and the next step. First, you must accept that things may never return to the way they were and one ending is a new beginning.

2. The Way Things Should Be Right Now

The way things are right now can frustrate you, but instead of allowing such to annoy you, you should let them motivate you because you are in control of how you look at life. Instead of getting angry, learn the lesson and in place of worry and doubt, take action and have faith. Life sometimes can be decided by uncontrollable circumstances but your response determines the vast majority of your life. Remember, the way you play into the hands of your circumstances determines where you end up.

3. The Desire to Change the Unchangeable

You should be selective with the way you use your energy. If you can fix an issue, go ahead and do it, and if you can’t, change your perspective about it and don’t attempt to invest more energy than you can. In reality, many of the most powerful moments in life happen when you find the courage to let go of what can’t be changed. When you can no longer change a situation, you will be forced to change yourself, so learn to grow beyond changing everything.

4. Errors and Old Mistakes in Judgment

You have made bad decisions in the past especially when you have little or no understanding of a situation but you still have to forgive yourself and have the will to grow out of them.

5. The Fantasy of Taking the Perfect Path

Quite often, we waste time waiting for the perfect path to appear but it never does. We often forget the fact that paths are created by walking and we also forget that nothing about our present circumstances will prevent us from making progress again, even if we make one tiny step at a time.

6. The Constant Need for Familiarity and Constant Comfort

Things often get uncomfortable when it’s time to change but it is part of the growth process. Have it at the back of your mind that things will get better when you take it step by step. Always remember that your efforts are never wasted even when they lead to disappointing results. Your efforts in the past will always make you stronger, and even more experienced in the long run. So, when the going gets tough, be patient and keep going. Just because you are struggling now doesn’t mean you are a failure, every success requires some worthy struggle.

7. Relationships That Belittle You

Let others take you as you are or not at all. Learn to speak the truth even when your voice shakes. When you remain true to yourself, you release something beautiful into the world that wasn’t there before. It is always wiser to lose someone over being who you are than to keep them for who you are not. The reason is that it will be easier to fill a vacuum left by someone than it is to fill an empty space inside yourself where you used to be.

8. Old Chapters are Still Half-Opened

You will meet and mingle with many people in your lifetime, even some friends you think you will know forever but if something happens you two will go separate ways. Since you will likely explore different parts of your life with different people who are not in it for the long haul, you will end up with different experiences some good and others not so good. Life is a series and your stories will intersect at some point, some people will appear in your life for an entire season, and others will only appear in a few chapters. You should be wise enough to know when a chapter is closed and when another is opened.