5 Best Remedies to Heal Your Insecurity

A good friend of mine reached out to me a couple of days ago saying that some days she feels as she isn’t enough. I mean, can you relate? ’Cause I can, like every single time.

I remember mine got so bad to the point where I felt like something was missing when my partner didn’t say I’m pretty for one day. I know it sounds ridiculous and shallow but it’s there, and if it shows up pretty often then you know it’s time to do something about it.

These 5 things are my current ways on how to deal with my insecurity when it comes up and I feel like I’m losing control over myself and my actions. By no means, it’s the best way and only way but just like you, I’m still learning and finding which ones work for me. Let’s get started!:)

1. Step Back and Have a ‘Meeting’ with Yourself

I call it a meeting with yourself to treat it as important as those meetings in your work that you have to attend. It’s mandatory.

Instead of trying to distract yourself and numb the insecurity, it’s better for you to step back and just have a deep conversation with yourself. I highly recommend this so that you can gain clarity of what’s really happening inside your head. Trust me, you’ll feel so much clearer and better afterward.

Asking yourself how are you feeling exactly in that moment and be brutally honest. You may not believe how many people out there who are afraid to even being honest with themselves. Most likely they don’t face the truth because lets be real, healing takes a lot of courage, and sometimes it’s so painful.

We all have so many layers when it comes to how we really feel. That’s why it’s important to make time for this. I do this a lot especially when something big happening and my heart feels heavy. I’d head to the park nearby and just ask a bunch of questions to myself.

When you ask the right questions and be as honest as you can with yourself, eventually something clicks and you’ll know what to do with the feeling.

2. Create a New Project That Excites the Hell out of You

This works like a charm too for me and I’d recommend you try this out at least once.

When you are feeling insecure about anything, be it about your body, relationship, or career, doing something else outside all of it might help. One of the main reasons is the fact that we have low self-esteem when the insecurity comes up and working on a new project will give you that boost and the proud feeling. This eventually will change your perspective about yourself and bring back your confidence.

Even small projects like getting a new plant or trying out new recipes count. For me personally, I like having several projects at once. Not too many to the point where I could get a burnout, but enough to keep the momentum going and make me feel good about myself again.

Just like the other day, I felt so insecure about my relationship. So I made a conscious effort to redirect my energy into something else instead of dwelling in the misery. I worked on revamping my website homepage and feeling so proud of myself once it’s done. And I kept it going by trying a recipe of my favorite food from my hometown that I’ve always been wanting to eat for so long.

The sooner you do something about your insecurity when they show up, the faster you’ll heal. There’s no point of drowning into those feelings longer or hence, ignoring it all.

3. Use a Brain Dump Page in Your Journal

You probably heard this one before. Journaling is indeed one of the powerful tools to heal yourself. By recording your thoughts, you’ll eventually be able to recognize your own patterns and be aware when, for example; the self-negativity talks come up.

For a starter, I recommend using a brain dump page and write everything that’s in your mind. Personally I love using sections to make it easier (work, relationship, friendship, family, and other random sections you can name it yourself).

There are no rules in using a brain dump page, write down all of your thoughts — how ugly they are, and have no filters. You are doing it for you and you only.

4. Watch Some Inspirational Videos on Youtube

Sometimes watching other people’s stories can make us evaluate our own lives and bring back those gratitude feelings. It’s so easy to focus too much on our own problems that we forget somebody out there might have been through something similar or worse.

I always find it refreshing to watch other people’s videos where they have through the same thing as I’m dealing at the moment. It gives me new insights and definitely makes me feel like I’m not alone in the journey.

This can also mean watching videos that trigger your inner creative inside of you. Such as; doodling, cooking prep, bedroom makeover, growing plants, and many more.

5. Call a Friend & Talk It All Out

If none of the above ways work for you, maybe it’s time to reach out to a friend and talk it out. However, make sure this is the person that you trust because you’re gonna be so vulnerable during the time and it’s important to have somebody that you can feel safe while pouring your hearts out.

I honestly can’t stress enough how important it is to find someone that you can trust fully before you tell them how you really feel. Because if you just randomly talk to people without knowing their character & personality, you’ll be surprised when they judge you instead and you’ll leave feeling even worse.

I learned it in a hard way but at the end of the day, I realized not everyone will understand your points and how your insecurity affects your life. Just like other things in life, while it’s a big deal for us, it might mean nothing for other people and vice versa.

Hope these will help you out ease your insecurity and maybe at some point, it’ll become lesser and lesser.

I’m a firm believer that everything will work out eventually as long as we have the intention to show up every day to be the best version of ourselves and small actions do count. Even as small as being aware of when you feel insecure.