Women Who Pay Bills Today, Use Power To Abuse Men And It’s Not Okay

It’s no secret statistically that in today’s society, a lot of women are earning more money than their husbands. With money can come a sense of grandeur, and control, towards one’s partner. This is a story from Brian in Florida, about making less money than his wife and feeling like nothing to his wife. I never hit her, but she hit me. Punch to the face , kick to the groin. Chain ripped off my neck broken iPad, broken cell phone. She says I deserve it because of my words, but when she uses harsh words, I can’t react that way. The only option a man has without going to prison is to yell or to curse, but when we do that we are the ones with the problem.

My wife makes more money than me. In fact, right now I am unemployed and attending school. She lets me know every day, that she is the one who pays the bills. If I have a problem with the way, she’s treating me, she will tell me to get out because she pays the bills. She will yell at me in front of the kids and say he’s not a man because I pay the bills. With every job denied application, the sting of her words on top makes life more miserable. Am I no longer a man of the house because my wife makes more money than me? Her mom believes this, and my wife believes it too. This brings me to Brian’s story where, I wonder what all couples think?

I have yelled out, I have cursed, I have said mean things. I think it’s OK, because if she talks to me that way, I should be able to talk to her that way. But when I do it is held onto, for days if not weeks. I feel bad when I do it. I apologize when I do it, but she won’t apologize. No couple should have to argue all the time but it happens. The worst part is if a man engages, then he is considered the evil one. How much patience is any human supposed to have when they are being treated like nothing?

I love my wife. I love when she smiles. I love when she is relaxed. I love when I satisfy her. But there are too many times when a man begs for peace and calm but a woman says no you deserve for me to scream at you. Recently, I had my wife and my mother-in-law yelling at me at the same time. Why? Because we was at the pool and I asked my wife hey, can you get in your bathing suit, and come swim with me? Our baby was sleep, so I figured we could spend time together.

My wife is a corporate woman who works relentlessly which I admire, but we never get time alone. So I thought, this would be great timing. Instead she told me no I feel bloated. I don’t wanna get in my swimsuit. I responded “OK.” Then her mom comes over and says come on let’s get in the Jacuzzi. So my wife goes with her mom which is perfectly fine, and she gets into the Jacuzzi removing her clothing down to the swimsuit. In the Jacuzzi was just her, and her mom, and another muscular man. I remain sitting with our baby who is sleeping now for over an hour.

In jealousy, I FaceTime my wife, and say, “I didn’t come to the pool to be sitting here by myself on baby duty.” Continuing, since our child is sleep, I will go down the street to our home, and come back and pick you and your mama up. My wife tells me, “no you’re not taking my car.” Now since we drove to the pool in her car, going home in her car was the only option. Her mom immediately jumps into the conversation on FaceTime, and says “ I’m no kind of man.”

They exit the Jacuzzi, and when they get to me, they both say “you have a problem.” At that moment, I think to myself, what if my wife had asked to swim with me? Then I said “no” and walk off with my dad to hop in the Jacuzzi, with another sexy woman sitting in there in her bikini. It’s childish, I know but we all have jealous moments over the one we love. I try to explain this thought to both of them, but then her mom is screaming at me and my wife is screaming at me. That is when I start to yell back. They tell me I need to shut up and listen, a real man knows when to be quiet. But if I said that to her, I can’t help but think, I would be thought of as an abusive and aggressive man.

Why is this OK? I admit when I noticed just her, and her mom, over there in the Jacuzzi enjoying each other’s company. I was fine. But then when I see a shirtless, muscular dude come out the Jacuzzi, and he has had the privilege of seeing my wife in the bikini that I asked to see her in. I was jealous. I was mad. Just because I am a man, doesn’t mean I don’t have emotions. My wife has literally pushed a woman before just for talking to me. If I do that then she would call me insecure. What makes her actions better than mine?

When my wife and her mom walk back from the jacuzzi. I wrongfully, start talking trash saying “that’s messed up you go over there to get in your bikini, but when I ask you say “no.” Then while her mom starts yelling at me, and my wife starts yelling at me, I had a inner thought “I should’ve just woke our baby up and brought her into the pool by myself.” My wife has a right not to, want to, swim with me. Husbands (and wives) are naturally territorial, but when the man gets jealous, he is insecure. When the woman is made jealous by the man, then he is a messed up guy.

Back to the drama, now all Brian’s family gets in the car and heads back home. We are all yelling back and forth, two against one. I’m hearing “your an embarrassment, your not a man.” They’re hearing from me “I did not come to the pool just to sit on the sideline, at least not to today. When we get home I am told to get out the car by my wife and stay home. I ask to take our baby out the car, she locks the door and says no.

I go in the house and sit on the corner chair frustrated. What hurts the most is, she didn’t want to spend time with me like I wanted to spend time with her. I didn’t expect her to choose me, over her mom, when the yelling was happening. I did expect her to want to include some time with me too, not all the time, just some time.

Again, I feel if the scenario was switched and I was yelling at my wife, and my dad was yelling at my wife, when we took her home. Then I told her get out my car, refused to let her keep the baby, and I drove off. That would make me, as a man, look abusive and mean. To these two women, that makes my wife look independent, justified, and strong.

Now this story is a common story among husbands and wives in America. The divorce rate is that almost at 70% and eight out of 10 divorces are initiated by women. I will say in the past husbands who, trapped their wives in the house, beat on them, cheated on them, told them to cook, would not allow them to work, would not allow them to vote. Those husbands of the past were, and are narcissist abusers.

At what point in today’s society, will the emotional aspects of humanity be considered equal for both genders. Women win sole custody of the child, almost 80% of the time, in America. If that was men winning custody 80% of the time, i know it would hurt women badly. For those of you who don’t know. When a man is yelled at, and talked down to it hurts. When a man is controlled, and made to believe that if he leaves the house he’s a cheater it hurts. When a man is hit, or cheated on it hurts. I will say all the years, women were treated as less than equal, was wrong.

Now that mantle has been passed, and women making more money than men, are treating them as less than equal are “wrong” too. It’s makes those women abusers. Its not all women today, but it is a lot of women today.