What kind of marriage is a high-quality marriage?

I still remember a foreign netizen sharing a marriage story about her mother. Before marrying my father, my mother always had a hobby of collecting cups and persisted until after marriage. But Dad couldn't stand it. Every time he came home, he would get angry because her mother had collected a new coffee mug. They argued over the trivial matter until they got divorced. Later, my mom went on a date with a new boyfriend. Not only did the man buy her beautiful mugs, but he also created a mug wall to support her hobby, where she can store all the mugs she likes. Netizens couldn't help sighing: "I'm glad to find someone who understands me." Many people don't understand the mother's choice in the story. In fact, in this kind of man, the more compromise and self-sacrifice, the less you can cherish it. For the ex-husband in the story, collecting a bunch of cups is useless and takes up space, so he stands on his own and completely negates the other. Instead, the new boyfriend respects and encourages each other's likes, and then offers the best of both worlds. There is no absolutely perfect marriage in this world, and it is impossible to get along without friction. If you don't know how to appreciate, at least you must know how to respect. We often say that in the adult world, three views are more important than likes. In fact, the "three-point consensus" here does not require two people's interests, preferences and ways of thinking to be completely compatible, but that they can preserve differences while seeking consensus and know how to tolerate, understand and appreciate. Just like Ma Yili's parents in "In the Distance", she talks to him about love, but he only sees reality. She wanted company, and he thought work was the most important thing. Two people will never have the same frequency, so getting along is naturally tiring. Others are very good, but less than one piece, after all, life is too long. It's important to find people you like, but it's even more important to find people who are willing to respect and love you. In a high-quality marriage, love and family feelings do not conflict. In the play, Ma Yili commented that her mother was someone who "needs to be coaxed", but to her father, it was all hypocritical. The Chinese have an adjective called "old husband and wife", which means that the couple has been married for a long time, the two are eager to support each other, and love gradually merges into the color of family affection. However, to a certain extent, the word also erases many tender moments in the relationship between husband and wife: "We are old and married, what flowers do we give?" "We are old and married, what Valentine's Day?" Don't be hypocritical, old couples are not ashamed." Cai Shaofen once talked about a history between her and Zhang Jin on the show. While chatting with friends, they talked about how the two met and fell in love. Looking back on the sweet times in the past, Cai Shaofen returned to the room and said to Zhang Jin, "I just talked about so many sweet topics, would you like to kiss me?" But Zhang Jin said, "It's an old husband and wife...", while perfunctory. After kissing Cai Shaofen, he went to do his own thing. Cai Shaofen felt sad, so she said to Zhang Jin: "Although we have been married for less than ten years, there are still 20, 30, 40 years in the future. The phrase "old husband and wife" is like love is dead. What's the point of such a marriage What's the meaning?" After Zhang Jin heard it, he immediately apologized to Cai Shaofen and gave her a serious kiss. Since then, Zhang Jin never perfunctory in marriage, but treats every day as a love period. The relationship between the two is getting sweeter, holding each other's hands wherever they go. We always feel that marriage is too tiring, but we don't know that love is fading away. Huang Lei once said in an interview: "I am very opposed to husbands and wives becoming relatives. A marriage without love will not be called a happy marriage." To live with a person for a lifetime, it is true that the water lasts for a long time. But while life isn't as dynamic as the movies, it still needs some subtle tweaks to make the tedious and trivial things more warm and endearing. Life is unremarkable and you need some spice. Do not hesitate to express your love at any time. Husbands and wives should always maintain the feeling of "love", not the perfunctory "old husband and wife". We are not only family, but love for each other. Don't wait until you lose to remember how to love. In a high-quality marriage, the truest answer is usually written on the woman's face. Athena Chu once said: "If you become more and more beautiful when you see yourself in the mirror, then you are in love with the right person." Before that, she won the golden bell at the 54th Golden Bell Awards ceremony held in Taiwan. After watching Alyssa Chia, beauty became the focus of the audience. Who would have thought that this beautiful and powerful beauty in front of him is now 45 years old and a mother of three children. In her speech, Jia Jingwen confessed to her husband Xiu Jiekai: "Thank you to my husband Xiu Jiekai for his endless support during my busiest time, and thank you to my three precious daughters." Indeed, meeting her current husband, Xiu Jiekai, A turning point in her fate. Thinking of the divorce battle that year, the negative news was overwhelming, and Alyssa Chia, who was disgraced and had no income, was forced to make a comeback at the age of 36. But she was not favored at that time, and everyone thought she was finished. Until she met Xiu Jiekai. This man who is 9 years younger than her doesn't care about her past: "Single motherhood is not a hindrance, it's a part of her life." And he doesn't care about gossip: "Actually, I have nothing to be afraid of, I just really love her." Xiu Jiekai told Jia Jingwen The love is not only a verbal commitment, but also manifested in every touching little detail. Hold her hand wherever you go. After seeing her burnt hands from the barbecue, she felt so distressed that the sky was about to fall. Not only that, Xiu Jiekai also put down his dignity as a man and is willing to be Jia Jingwen's most solid backing. As she worked for her career, he provided her with rear protection, contracted all the housework, and became an almighty father. Escaping from an awkward marriage, Alyssa Chia is now spoiled as a princess. There is no trace of time on her face, only happiness. People say she is a beautiful woman and she is prioritized by time. In fact, the priority is not marriage, but a good marriage. Marriage is the second cycle of a woman's life. It can turn a smart girl into resentment, or an inferior "Cinderella" into a dazzling light.