The other party is not like you, look at the chat "share desire" to know

There is a hot search online: "Is the desire to share really important?"

In fact, in any relationship, the desire to share is important.

What is sharing desire?

When you are dealing with someone, you show a strong desire to communicate with them.

Share emotions, share life, share gossip, share interesting and fun things; even if it's boring, uninteresting and meaningless, you still want to share it with the other person.

Because only by sharing, you can feel that the other party is with you all the time.

Just like WeChat, you always find someone to chat with and take the initiative to send him messages.

These behaviors belong to the "sharing desire" of a.

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WeChat, you can tell that the other party "like you"

You have a friend like this?

The actual fact is that you'll be able to find the right way to get the most out of the situation.

This state shows that you are eager to understand each other, close to each other.

The same thing is true in reverse.

To determine whether the other party likes you, look at the state of your chat.

The person who likes you will take the initiative to find you to chat.

This is the "desire to share" that was mentioned above.

If possible, the other party wants to talk to you all the time; but he is worried about being rejected by you, so he takes the initiative while maintaining his own restraint.

Whether it is work time or rest time, he will take the initiative to send you a message, throwing some topics to you to chat.

The main focus is not to "talk" about your life, your work, your vacation, or your hobbies.

His focus is not "what to talk about", but "talk to you".

As long as the person facing you, it does not matter what you talk about, he enjoys every second with you.

Although it is across the phone screen and you together.

The person who likes you always returns your messages in seconds.

Looking through the chat records of two people, you can find a lot of signals.

For example.

If the other person does not like you, then the two of you chatting status is.

You are always talking, sending many messages in a row; and the other party's response is somewhat perfunctory and lovey-dovey.

If the other party likes you a lot, it's the other way around.

He is always talking, receive your message the first time to respond, and finally the end of the chat is always him.

This is the state of liking a person.

WeChat, is the strongest expression of the desire to share.

The stronger a person's desire to share in the face of you, the deeper his good feelings for you.

The most romantic and restrained love of an adult is the "desire to share".

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Why is "sharing desire" important?

First, the desire to share can quickly bring two people closer together.

Why are extroverts more able to establish a relationship with others quickly in social situations?

The essential reason is that they always take the initiative to share with others, and take the initiative to talk to each other.

As long as he shows kindness, it opens the "door" to the relationship between two people, and his initiative and sharing behavior is the key to the relationship.

This is especially true in love.

Psychologically, it is believed that

The more you share your thoughts and feelings during the relationship, the more the other person will be willing to share them with you.

There's a saying on the Internet, "If you don't initiate, and I don't initiate, how will we ever produce a story?"

Second, the desire to share is one of the measures of two people's feelings.

There is a concept in psychology called "self-exposure".

When you talk to each other, the depth of topics shared, the density of privacy, directly determines the relationship between you two.

If you trust each other, then you can confide in each other without reservation.

If you do not trust each other, with each other just ordinary friends, then you will have reservations.

And when faced with a stranger, you out of the protection of their own, more reluctant to say more than a few words with strangers.

For two people who like each other, why do wechat chat so often?

Just because, the more sharing desire, the more depth, the better the two people's feelings.

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All sharing desire expects to be "responded to"

Readers often leave messages asking.

"Why do I send messages to the other person, but he always does not return?"

"Why do I send him dozens of messages, he only replied to me 1?"

"Do I have to contact the person who doesn't reply to my messages again?"

The desire to share is romantic, but it's based on "responsiveness".

If in the relationship, you are always taking the initiative, you are sharing; and the other party's performance is indifferent, is perfunctory.

This kind of sharing becomes meaningless.

We expect love because the other person gives us a response.

If every expectation is not met, then we will not keep expecting a "fruitless" relationship.

The actual fact is that you'll be able to find out more about the actual person you're looking for.

You will find that the older you get, the less people care about you.

The older you get, the fewer people you have left in your circle, too.

It is a lucky thing to find someone who is willing to share with you, willing to listen, and love each other.