The Honest Guide to Choosing the Right Partner

Do you want to get married? Then first decide what you expect from your wife.

➤Don’t choose a woman with a fuller figure and then tell her after the engagement, "You need to lose weight before we can get married."

➤Don’t select a girl who wears makeup and then say, "Don’t put on makeup; I don’t like it."

➤Don’t go for a girl who wears jeans and then demand, "Please wear an abaya or a skirt; that’s what I want my wife to wear."

➤Don’t engage with a woman who enjoys going out freely and then force her to stay home, saying, "I want my fiancée to stay indoors."

➤Don’t marry a well-educated, intelligent, and independent woman and then say, "I need a housewife. You’ll have to quit your job."

➤Don’t commit to a social, outgoing girl and then expect her to cut ties with her friends and family, becoming "all about you."

➤Don’t choose a slim woman and then say, "Gain some weight; I prefer curvier women."

➤Don’t get engaged to a short woman and then complain, "Why can’t you be taller?"

➤Don’t pick a tall woman and then forbid her from wearing heels, saying, "I don’t like it when you look taller than me."


Stop criticising God’s creation.

If you have specific preferences or requirements, choose someone who already meets your expectations.
Don’t enter someone’s life only to try and change them to suit your desires, and then break things off for unreasonable reasons.

First, look in the mirror and reflect on your own flaws—flaws that they may be willing to accept.
If you truly love someone, accept them as they are. Love them for their appearance, their body, their habits, and their thoughts.

Love is not about changing someone.

Don’t fall for the misconception that "love changes people for each other."
Some people may deeply love and respect you, but if they don’t agree with your demands, they won’t change their nature.
If such people lose their true selves, they may not be able to live with you because they are not clay that can be moulded at your will.

Every person grows with their own beliefs and experiences.

Each individual is shaped by their upbringing, environment, and experiences—just like you are.
No one can change unless they themselves choose to.

Be honest in your choices.

If you marry someone whose personality doesn’t match your preferences, don’t ruin their life.
Either accept them for who they are or pursue a partner who meets your expectations from the start.

Finally, stop playing with others’ lives. Decide what you truly want and what direction you’re heading in.

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Summary of the Article

1. Know What You Want: Before deciding to get married, figure out what you truly expect from your partner.


2. Accept People as They Are: Don’t choose someone and try to change them to fit your preferences (e.g., weight, clothing, behavior).


3. Be Honest About Preferences: If you want a specific type of partner, choose someone who already meets those expectations rather than trying to alter them after engagement.


4. Don’t Criticize Physical Appearance: Avoid criticizing someone’s body or appearance. Accept and love them as they are.


5. Respect Individual Choices: Don’t expect someone to completely change their lifestyle or habits, such as staying home all the time or quitting their job, if they are independent and social.


6. Love and Respect: True love is about accepting your partner’s true self, not trying to change them into someone else.


7. Understand Personal Growth: People grow based on their beliefs, upbringing, and experiences. They can only change if they choose to do so.


8. Be Honest and Fair: If you find that your partner’s personality doesn’t meet your expectations, don’t hurt them by trying to force them to change. Either accept them or find someone who suits your needs.


9. Respect the Other Person’s Life: Don’t manipulate or play with someone’s life. Be clear about what you want in a relationship.


10. Final Advice: Decide what you truly want from a relationship and make choices based on respect and love.



The key message is: Love and respect your partner for who they are, and be honest about your expectations from the start.