SUCCESSFUL COUPLES, THEIR SECRETS TO SUCCESS

Successful couples, their secrets to success

Whether it's celebrity power couples or your grandparents, you probably have a role model of a couple you consider "successful"—in other words, a couple with longevity .

What are their secrets to success  ?

How do they thrive in their love life and project this image of a solid couple  ?

Find out in this article

Successful couples never consider themselves a successful couple, they constantly work on their individual and joint success.

Successful couples, complementary couples 

Successful couples are often categorized as two people who "go really well together ," without anyone really knowing what that means.

In reality, talking about people who go well together is talking about alchemy and complementarity .

A couple is the addition of two personalities, two egos, but also two lives.

Knowing how to reconcile them requires being complementary, whether in terms of personality or life plans. 

A successful couple is not necessarily a couple who does everything together, far from it.

Take the example of celebrities: each person in the couple has their main occupation , which is very demanding (athlete for David Beckham, entrepreneur and designer for Victoria), or even omnipresent.

How can we explain that these couples manage to stay together, despite the challenges and the distance?

Quite simply because they work on their complementarity , both in professional and personal projects. 

Which proves that it is possible to have a vibrant individual life and share a fulfilling relationship at the same time.

All it takes is the right ingredients, and a fulfilling intimate relationship is one of them. 

The importance of intimate life 

It is a sometimes taboo subject, but the intimate life of a couple reveals their level of complicity and therefore, their solidity .

Indeed, sharing tender moments on the pillow brings bodies and hearts closer together.

It has been proven that making love with the person you love creates serotonin, in other words, the happiness molecule . 

There are times when this intimate life can be put to the test  : new job or new working conditions, major financial or personal challenges, the arrival of a baby , etc.

But successful couples are those who manage to maintain a couple identity, despite the trials .

Everyone will react differently: it's not necessarily about doing the same position every night in a row, but about finding moments to share this intimacy, and letting your imagination run wild. 

This intimate life also involves the ability to discuss sensitive, deep, personal subjects  : it is sharing something unique with your other half and giving them this status.

This creates a sense of mutual trust, which strengthens the bonds of love.

If this is maintained on a daily basis, then the complementarity continues to operate.

On condition, of course, that you know how to express this need for intimacy when necessary, and that you talk about it together. 

Thus, intimate life is based on the creativity of each partner, but also on their ability to express themselves and to want to communicate their needs and desires. 

Certain criteria allow for the construction of strong couples, such as communication or passion.

Know how to communicate 

Successful couples are those who overcome life's challenges, one by one, continuing to talk to each other and make decisions together.

What makes many couples vulnerable, at a certain point in their lives, is their inability to talk to each other, to express their needs or their desires .

For some, being in a relationship is routine  : by getting to know each other, there is no longer any need to reinvent oneself.

However, it is possible to overcome this through speech.

Each partner will evolve over the course of their life, and this will impact their vision of the couple, of love, but also of relationships .

Talking about these changes amounts to wanting to find a common solution, which can only lead to success for the couple.

It works both ways: if you have to know how to speak, you also have to know how to listen .

On average, 75% of couples who are in conflict are there because, in reality, they do not know how to listen to each other or let each other speak, and they remain in their individualistic vision of things.

Communicating means opening up to others, leaving your comfort zone and opening up , which is a factor of intimacy. 

Communication is not only the foundation of a relationship, but it is also the key to a successful relationship.

What will really be key is the couple's ability to find their balance.  

The secret: finding your balance 

A successful couple has a subjective definition  : each has their own standards when it comes to love and relationships.

So, your successful relationship is when you have found your balance .

While some people will need a certain degree of freedom within their relationship, others will need to escape together permanently.

It all depends on the expectations of each partner, hence the importance of maintaining a high level of complementary energy, communication and a fulfilling intimate life. 

These are couples who know how to flourish individually, but also as a couple .

It is mathematically not possible to be happy as a single person: this happy couple must be the result of two happy people, who are keen to share this happiness together.

This secret to success is both the most obvious and the most difficult to implement: it can take months, even years , before a couple finds its balance.

But once he finds it, nothing will be able to stop him and success will be within his reach. 

To experience a successful relationship, focus on communication, intimate life and the complementarity of your personalities and life plans.