HOW TO COMMUNICATE WELL WITH YOUR PARTNER

How to communicate well with your partner?

It's a recurring topic when we talk about romantic relationships and couples: communication.

For many couples in difficulty, lack of communication is responsible, in 70% of cases, for disagreements, misunderstandings and other tensions in the couple.

Therefore, communicating well with your partner is essential to ensure the longevity of your relationship  : discover our advice in this article.

Communication is essential for the longevity of a couple

Transparency and honesty are the key words

Communication is the foundation of a relationship  : it is not only the words that are exchanged, nor the promises or confessions, but also the elements of non-verbal communication or attitudes that count.

All of these are part of the exchanges that two partners have during their lives, and all of them are important.

For example, it is not uncommon for some couples, after years of living together, to end up admitting that an attitude or reaction from their partner annoys them to the highest degree: why not have said it before?

Because communication was broken or difficult.

To communicate effectively, a high level of trust must be established in a couple  : you must not be afraid to reproach each other, have a constructive and non-critical approach, know how to manage sensitivities, etc.

Communicating is not easy!

This is why there are two key words within a couple: transparency and honesty.

Your partner is the only person you should be able to confide in without fear of consequences; they are your rock.

Therefore, doing so will help you establish a reliable foundation for communication .

But it's all about balance, in the end.

Couple communication, a balance to be found

Having good communication skills is one thing, but finding your communication balance is another .

It is important that you understand how the other person expresses and communicates, in order to have the most fulfilling relationship possible .

For example, some people are much more sensitive to certain words or attitudes than others, some prefer subtlety to transparency...

Not to mention the life values ​​you share, or don't: often, we take for granted what others think about cheating, the importance of a career, or the desire to start a family, until a conflict arises.

Your level of communication may also change depending on your relationship status  : for long-distance couples, communication is essential, as it is the only pillar they have.

A word may be interpreted differently depending on the context or time of the discussion.

This is why it is important to keep an open and flexible mindset , but also to be a good listener .

Your partner is your other half, someone you trust: it is important to want to communicate well.

The distinction between simply having to and wanting to communicate is what makes the difference between couples who last and those who quickly come into conflict.

To communicate effectively, you must be in the present moment, but also know how to project yourself.

In a couple you have to find your way of communicating

Be in the present moment, but project yourself

Communication is also a question of compatibility .

Some couples will tell you they talk a lot, but in reality they don't communicate.

One hears what he wants, the other too.

The couple is not on the same listening level: there is no communication.

What will make the difference is the fact that you are in the present moment to communicate: listening is not just telling your partner that you are listening.

It's also about providing support (sometimes not visible at first glance) that shows that you not only listen to them, but also want to help them solve their problems.

Remember that every human being obeys and acts accordingly in the face of certain needs , as mentioned in Maslow's pyramid: physiological need, need for security, need for belonging, need for esteem, need for self-fulfillment .

A partner who is not pleasing in the eyes of his or her own partner will tend not to satisfy these needs: this is why each member of the couple has a mirror role essential to the well-being of the other .

Communicating effectively therefore also means choosing to face discussions that may be unpleasant or difficult, in order to fulfill these needs in the more or less distant future.

This balance of communication within the couple is essential to find from an individual point of view, because each partner must listen to each other and communicate so that each person achieves on all levels .

Tips for better communication in your relationship

After a certain number of years together, partners see their communication going in one direction or established according to certain principles, without thinking that individuals continue to evolve in parallel.

This is a common mistake among many partners: this is your first factor of attention to learn to communicate better in your relationship  !

So, start by expressing your dissatisfaction more often by downplaying the impact of this communication: it is not because what you want to say has a negative connotation that your relationship will be called into question .

Many partners hesitate to make comments for fear of upsetting, annoying, or upsetting their other half  : but what's the point of continuing if you're not moving forward on a transparent basis  ?

Expressing the negative allows the other to become aware of things in order to move forward together .

Beyond expressing your feelings and experiences, you must also learn to ask questions.

This may seem basic, but it's actually what will change everything in your communication as a couple: ask your other half about their day, their emotions, their thoughts, their plans, on a daily basis.

You will learn much more than you could ever imagine...

Communicating well with your partner is based on several pillars, the main one being the trust you have in each other to be able to say both positive and negative things to each other, in order to look in the same direction together.

And you, how do you communicate within your couple?