No matter how handsome or rich a man is, if his family does not meet the two conditions, he cannot marry

Marriage is a major event in a woman's life. You never know how much influence it will have on your life if you marry the wrong person or family. When you know it, you may never be able to look back.

This reminds thousands of parents that they must pay enough attention to their children when choosing a mate, give their children a reference, and help them check.

Especially for families with daughters, be more cautious.

If you have a daughter, be sure to tell her that marriage is love and is two completely different things. And love can be romantic, can have fantasy, the two are completely different in nature.

No matter how handsome or rich a man is, if he does not meet the following two conditions, he cannot marry.

1: It’s not right to be in the right household, one party’s thinking is too old and pedantic

There is such a plot in the hit drama "Home in the Heart": Gu Qingyu and her first love boyfriend Shi Yuan meet again after missing, and the two sides get married in a flash.

At the dinner table of the parents of both parties after the marriage, Shi Yuan's mother was very dissatisfied with Gu Qingyu. From Shi Yuan's parents' point of view, her son was a civil servant and her family was registered in Shanghai.

In front of Gu Qingyu's father, Shi Yuan's mother was very disdainful of Gu Qingyu when she talked, and she bluntly said that she was not as good as the blind date she had arranged for her son. These words made everyone at the dinner table unable to come to the stage.

After the banquet, Gu Qingyu sent his father home. On the way, Gu Qingyu felt sorry for his father and made him suffer such embarrassment, but his father didn't care. He just asked his daughter worriedly, Shi Yuan's mother despised you so much, what will you do in the future? how.

Sure enough, as his father expected, Gu Qingyu's life after marriage did not look like marrying love as he imagined, but a piece of chicken feathers. The mother-in-law even invited the former doll to her home and embarrassed Gu Qingyu in person, just to make her realize how unworthy of her son she was.

In fact, Gu Qingyu is a senior executive of a foreign company, with an annual salary of one million, and a beautiful and capable person. And Shi Yuan is just a civil servant, with a death salary of several thousand yuan, and owes more than one million yuan in debt to treat his mother's illness.

No matter how you look at this marriage, Shi Yuan found a treasure.

However, in the eyes of Shi Yuan's mother, her son is a sweet pastry, even if Shi Yuan is now so poor that he needs to borrow money to make a living.

The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change. It is very difficult and painful to change a person's inherent concept. It is even more difficult to change the concept of the elders.

You marry to have a better life, not to correct other people's opinions.

Women always think that love can change a lot of things, but in the end, only the once happy self is changed.

If the two families are not in the same household, and you cannot change each other's thoughts in a short period of time, then I advise you to give up such a marriage as soon as possible.

Two: the debt is unclear

Colleague Xiao Zhou encountered such a situation.

She and her husband are colleagues, both of whom work in banks and are more cautious about economics. Before the marriage, both parties showed each other their credit report. The man gave a dowry of 100,000 yuan during the marriage, and the mother-in-law generously prepared a generous three gold and a change fee for her.

Xiao Zhou thought that he had met a good marriage, but after getting married, he found out that it was not the case at all. It turned out that the man's dowry money was borrowed, but now the account is said to be paid by the father-in-law and the mother-in-law, but in fact it is all on the husband.

Although the husband himself has no financial problems, the father-in-law owes a huge debt due to the failure of the business. Even the house he lives in now, although it is in the husband's name, was transferred from the father-in-law's name one month before the marriage. Once the creditor sues , will be enforced for the transfer of property.

Xiao Zhou thought he could start a new life, but he didn't expect that before the good days began, he would face the danger of being displaced by huge debts.

A family is like a ship, everyone is a comrade-in-arms in the same boat, if any one of them has a problem, it is difficult for the others to be alone.

Don't think that it is a shame to inquire about the financial situation of the husband's parents before marriage. It is better to understand some things in advance than to suffer the bitter fruit after blindfolded marriage.

Everything you didn't understand before marriage will give you color after marriage.

Thoughts are related to a person's three views and attitude towards life, and debt is related to daily life. If a family has bad views and debts, then you can imagine the future.

I hope that every woman can maintain a sense of reason and sobriety when choosing a mate.