Judge a betrayal of feelings, whether really back, the key to look at these two points

How can you tell if they really want to come back?

In fact, to judge whether he or she is really looking back, you can look at two aspects of him or her.

First, see if they can justify their betrayal.

Not to defend, although not really back, may be broken broken psychological; However, all those who explain their betrayal must not be those who really want to turn back.

If a person betrays you, but also said to you, my betrayal is excusable, I have to betray the pains; My betrayal, because you are not good; My betrayal, because of our feelings between the problems; My betrayal is no big deal, my betrayal is just human nature... And so on.

As long as the other side says so, you can be sure that the other side can not sincerely back.

What is turning back? Knowing the mistake will turn back, lost will turn back.

If a person does not believe that his or her behavior is wrong, how can he or she change in the future? If a person steals something, he or she does not think that the theft is wrong, but that he or she is poor or that the object is too seductive, then it is almost impossible for him or her not to reach out to the object he or she likes.

Therefore, those who betray the feelings, really want to turn back, can turn back, must be aware of their behavior is wrong, this mistake, not only see the harm to each other, but also realize that the behavior of betrayal is a kind of irresponsible -- whether to each other, or to children, family; Of course, it is fundamentally irresponsible to oneself.

For betraying the wrong understanding, not mouth talk - some people, mouth will say "I was wrong". However, you do not feel any sincerity from the other party, so "admitting mistakes" is not only verbal, but also behavioral.

As the one who has suffered emotional betrayal, you can completely perceive and judge whether the other party is really aware of his or her mistake and is sincerely willing to make up for and correct his or her mistake.

Second, whether the other person is actively trying to repair the relationship.

In the relationship and marriage after the betrayal, there is a common wonderful existence, for the repair of the relationship and constantly strive to be the one who has been betrayed.

The simple truth is that if a betrayed relationship is to be repaired, it is the betrayer who should make the effort; The ultimate determinant of a successful relationship lies in betraying one's partner -- but, in reality, it's often the other way around.

If a person is not willing to take full responsibility and repair after betraying a relationship, then such a person is not likely to turn back -- continuing to cheat, or not doing anything about it, are typical.

There is also a situation, ta may no longer betray, but, ta a pair of you love how how attitude, "you want to lead, do not want to divorce", such attitude, this kind of person, is also impossible to sincerely turn back.

Able to look back, that always take the initiative to try to repair relations, they will focus on each other's mood, can understand more at this stage to accompany, and try to solve the problem of trust, regardless of their betrayal hurts you, after the event, they are all very carefully, showed both for your care, has shown a care for this relationship, because don't want to lose you, They don't want to lose the relationship, so they're going to take the initiative, and they don't need you to teach them, you say.

On the other hand, those who are indifferent, basically laissez-faire, after all, don't care about you and the relationship, such a person, of course, can not sincerely back.

So, after a relationship has been betrayed, if there is any way to repair it, if there is any way to repair it, the main effort to repair it is by the person who betrayed it; If you want to save, if you can save, save the person should be the betrayal of feelings -- want to turn back, you do nothing, ta will turn back, you have to decide is whether to accept; Don't want to turn back, even if you spend all your efforts, they will not turn back, you have to decide whether to go or stay.