Dreams in Marriages

Pray for him

Praying for your husbands is one of the most crucial things you can do for your marriages, and this is one of your responsibilities as wives. And while men's responses to surveys did not rank prayer as the top reaction, without prayer, we cannot achieve the following six goals. lacking it. A great marriage begins in prayer.

Honors Him

Rita claimed that, "I've been ignored, dismissed, shot down, mocked, overlooked, overbooked, and overstimulated...I am aware of my purpose in being. I am aware that I am valuable in God's eyes. I just need someone to believe in me, that's all.

No, these are not the lyrics of the newest country song; rather, these are the words of one of the people who answered my poll. We shouldn't be shocked that wanting respect was quite high on a man's want list.

Adores Him

It was a beautiful sunny day in Murumba, Soweto when Norah surprised her husband with a day full of birthday treats. It began with breakfast in bed and continued with a stack of note cards tied with a red ribbon. “You are wonderful because you are handsome.” “You are wonderful because you are a great listener.” “You are wonderful because you make people feel special.” Through laughter and tears, Jeremy read twenty- five cards aloud. Each became a jewel in his birthday crown. Jeremy’s birthday continued with surprises, and at days end he cupped Jill’s face in his hands and whispered, “You love me so much” One of a husband’s greatest longings is to be adored, admired, and appreciated by the woman of his dreams. And if those needs are not being met at home, he will seek elsewhere. He may go to work to hear “job well done,” to the ball field to hear, “way to go,” or even back home to mom to hear, “I’m so proud of you son.” But where he really wants to go to be adored is through the front door of his own home.

Paul addressed both men and women on the varied roles they play in marriage in the Bible. Each of you [men] also needs to love his wife as much as he loves himself,

Ephesians 5:33 states that the wife must respect her husband. A man wants to be respected, just as a woman yearns to be adored and loved. One of the most priceless things a wife can give is this. The term "special esteem or consideration in which one holds another person" is used by Webster to define respect. We demonstrate respect for a person by cooperating with his decisions, praising him in front of others, recognizing his contributions, honoring his leadership, and valuing his thoughts.

Establishes Close Friendship

I still recall the television ad featuring the group of men enjoying their favorite beverage while sitting around a campfire. It doesn't get any better than this, the announcer exclaimed as men laughed and patted each other on the back. however, based It does get better, according to the males in my survey, than that. The real desire of males is to enjoy themselves with their wives.

Couples concentrate on getting to know one another and having fun throughout the dating phase. But somewhere between paying the rent, mowing the lawn, and caring for the kids, the enjoyable aspects of marriage are lost. trash. How then can we alter that? We become very deliberate and forge affinities. Discover a shared activity you both enjoy, develop excellent communication skills, and schedule time for enjoyment. Then, after a fun-filled day with the lady he loves, he might comment, "It doesn't get any better than this," as he puts his head on the pillow.

Protects Her Marriage

Your strong man has a soft spot in his heart where he wants the lady of his dreams to prioritize him above all other human relationships, including those with their parents, their kids, and everyone else. She protects her marriage from outside influences attempting to drive a hole between her and her husband, and she acts as sentinel to keep them together from anything attempting to tear them apart. The woman of your man's dreams demonstrates to him his superiority to God alone.

No matter how many little princes and princesses are clamoring for their mother's attention, a man wants to know that he is still the King of the castle. "I wish my wife understood my need to be her first priority, after God and before the kids or other outside interests," one man said throughout the men's These are presumably the thoughts that he has but may never express out loud.

Boosts His morale

Today, there is a lot written about women having poor self-esteem. But I also observe similar issue in men. They are less likely to reveal or acknowledge their need for encouragement, in my opinion, as it goes against the notion of what the world should be. masculinity. Men are raised to be strong, resilient, and unappreciative of compliments. But they yearn to know that someone has faith in them. Men may never tell women the wounds that were inflicted on them as children by ill-spoken words. “You are such a slob.” “You’ll never amount to anything.” Women may not be able to withdraw them or erase them, but still women can deposit enough encouraging words to counterbalance and negate the bad. The woman of your man’s dreams lets him know that she believes in him.

Sexually Satisfies Him

This could be the last part of the piece, but it was undoubtedly his first response. According to the surveys I gathered, respect and sexual fulfillment were right at the top of the list. A wife is excellent at asking for prayer.

All of her efforts will be in vain if she doesn't take care of her husband sexually. She can love him, respect him, adore him, start an intimate friendship with him, protect her marriage, and encourage him. Not accommodation, but sexual pleasure serves as the binding agent that binds the other components. It is the superglue, not merely the glue of marriage.

Looking back at these seven characteristics, you'll notice that the initial letter of each one spells out the word "prizes" and connects with the sentiment of Proverbs 31:29: "He (her husband) commends her, saying, 'Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.'"

Join me in imagining for a moment. Take a 20–40–60-year perspective. Do you see anything? Your actions will determine so much of how your marriage develops. No, one individual cannot create a wonderful marriage by themselves. It requires two. I retract that. It takes three: a woman who is determined to become the woman of her man's dreams, God, who longs to give her the strength and imagination to do so, and a man who is devoted to helping her.