10 Signs Someone is Deeply Attracted to You but Trying to Play It Cool

By LOVE NESTPublished about a year ago • 5 min read

When someone is attracted to you but trying to hide it, their actions and words often reveal more than they intend. Here are 10 subtle signs to help you figure out if someone is truly interested in you but playing it cool.

1. They Steal Glances Often

One of the first indicators of attraction is eye contact—or, in this case, the quick glances they throw your way. If you catch them looking at you frequently but they look away when you notice, it’s likely they’re interested but don’t want to make it obvious. They might be checking to see if you’re noticing them, or they’re just naturally drawn to look at you more than they’d like to admit.

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2. They Remember Small Details About You

If someone remembers minor things you mentioned in passing, like your favorite coffee order or a story from your childhood, that’s a strong sign of attraction. This shows they’re paying close attention to what you say, even if they don’t openly express interest in you.

3. Their Body Language Gives Them Away

While they might try to keep things casual, their body language can reveal their true feelings. Subtle signs include facing you directly, mirroring your gestures, or leaning in when you talk. They may also fidget or adjust their clothes, a subconscious effort to make themselves look better around you.

4. They Playfully Tease You

Teasing can be a way of flirting without fully showing their hand. If they make little jokes or give you a hard time in a light-hearted way, it might be their way of connecting with you without appearing too eager. Teasing often creates a playful atmosphere and allows them to gauge your reaction to them.

5. They Find Ways to Spend Time Around You

When someone is attracted to you, they’ll look for excuses to be near you. This might mean they always end up in the same group at social gatherings or frequently “bump into you” around the office. Even though they might act indifferent, these “coincidences” could indicate their desire to be close to you.

6. They Actively Engage with You on Social Media

If they’re the first to like or comment on your posts, or they often reply to your stories, it’s a good sign they’re interested. Engaging with you online is a low-pressure way for them to stay on your radar and subtly signal their attraction without risking much face-to-face vulnerability.

7. They Compliment You in a Casual Way

While they may not give grand compliments, they’ll often drop subtle ones to express their admiration. They might say something like, “That color looks good on you,” or “You always know the best places to eat.” These compliments are designed to show they notice and appreciate you without making it too obvious.

8. They Seem Nervous or Awkward Around You

Sometimes, trying to play it cool can make someone appear more nervous or awkward than they usually are. They may stumble over words, avoid eye contact, or laugh more than usual. These are natural responses to being around someone they’re attracted to but are trying to impress without revealing their feelings.

9. They Ask You Thoughtful Questions

If someone is interested in you, they’ll often ask questions that go beyond small talk, even if they’re trying to be subtle. They might ask about your interests, dreams, or family. This shows they’re genuinely curious about who you are, and they’re investing emotionally without openly admitting their attraction.

10. They’re Quick to Help You Out

If they’re eager to lend a hand whenever you need it, it’s often a sign of interest. Whether it’s offering to help with a project, fix something for you, or just listen when you need to talk, they’re showing their attraction through actions rather than words.

How to Respond if You Suspect They’re Interested

If you notice someone showing these signs, consider responding positively to encourage them to feel more comfortable around you. Start by returning their subtle signals, such as engaging in eye contact, showing appreciation for their help, or initiating conversations about topics they seem to care about. Letting them know you’re also interested can help them open up more.

In the end, while they may be trying to play it cool, these small gestures and behaviors often reveal their true feelings. By paying close attention to these signs, you can get a clearer picture of how they feel, even if they’re not quite ready to admit it openly.

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