Things We Need to Stop Worrying About

The words anxiety, and overthinking are in my head constantly because we hear these words a lot more. I do both a lot of can be something simple as there was no exclamation point after thanks in that text and I’m thinking “maybe they aren’t as grateful as I thought they were” or “they must be mad at me” that’s one example of both anxiety and overthinking right there. However, there are a few things we need to stop doing/thinking about:

1. Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber’s relationship.

They broke up in 2012 which was a while ago…can we stop comparing their relationships side by side? I’m sick and tired of scrolling and seeing videos of their old relationship. The two of them show up on my feed because I like Selena Gomez. It’s been 13 years since their break-up and here you are still comparing the two relationships side by side. Give it a rest, we don’t need to worry about them anymore. They’ve clearly moved on and so can you, just let it go. Please.

2. Selena Gomez's relationship with Benny Blanco

While on the Selena Gomez rant she lost a lot of followers because of her relationship with Benny Blanco, but have you listened in on their interviews? Their relationship is what everyone should be looking for. Benny has been nothing but respectful towards Selena and vice versa. Even though they don’t need validation for their relationship there’s no need to hate on it either.

3. Stop worrying about what others think of you.

Everyone around you is more concerned about themselves than about you...I know how selfish can be people be? No, I completely understand just how something you say, you immediately start to over think it: "was that okay to say my opinion?" "Was I in the wrong?" and "now do people think I am weird?". All of those thoughts have tossed in my head at one point or another. Guess what? we are thinking the same thing.

4. Dwelling on what once was.

We can all spend time thinking about the past and what you wished you would've done in that situation such as "I wish I broke up with him sooner", "I wish I traveled more in my twenties" "maybe I should have joined band", "maybe if I had slowed down at the stop sign I wouldn't have run over that biker" These are all regrets that we think about, but what happened, happened and nothing good comes from looking at the past and what you could have done differently. You can always learn from your mistakes to not repeat them.

5. Holding on to negative feelings

Being mad at someone takes a lot of energy. You need to go out of your way to to ignore their phone calls, messages - if you can’t make up for whatever reason then just delete their number and block them, and then let it go. Don’t keep thinking about that person. If they did something unforgivable then they were never your friend in the first place. Of course, you might need to mourn the relationship that you’ve lost, but you will be much better off if you don’t think about them.

6. Worrying about the future

The future is not today. You never know what the future will be, you might be worrying about not being able to afford a house or you might be worrying about a conversation you need to have with your boss. You have no idea what the outcome will be yet. You don’t know what the boss will say or if may there will be a housing crash and you can afford a house. The future is unwritten, so make it what you want.

Everything will be okay.

"Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it." – Dorothy M. Neddermeyer