Introverts Struggle with Asking for Help

We all have trouble asking for help at times, but for some of us, it’s harder than expected. Everyone has their own feelings on why we don’t and that’s OK, but we need to understand that it’s not a bad thing to ask for help.

Introverts tend to struggle with this for reasons. They are not the ones who struggle with these issues, but it can be more common for them.

Here are some reasons why introverts choose to suffer in silence rather than going out and getting help.

Convinced your problems aren’t that bad compared to others

If we stop and take a look at what others have to deal with, we may come to the conclusion that our issues are not as bad. This kind of thinking makes us believe that we can handle on our own when we may need help.

Comparing your problems to someone else’s is never the way to go. You never know what other people have gone through and how they handle situations compared to you.

If you have a problem dealing with confrontation that doesn’t mean that others do as well.

We have to take stock of our issues and when we believe it's become more than we can handle.

It can also reinforce something we already have within us. That we are too soft and need to get tougher.

Life is full of learning experiences like this. , we may not be learning the right lessons.

In this case, we need to learn when to ask for help instead of trying to toughen up. This can lead to further problems if you don't fix the original problem.

It's easy to convince ourselves we need to get over our problems and get over them ourselves when we hear someone else telling us to do the same.

Remember that we need to do at our own pace sometimes. What’s good for one person may not be good for you. Try not to believe that your problems are not as bad if they are affecting the way to live your life.

Don’t want to feel like a burden

It’s easy to feel like you're in the way when asking for help. Others may be running around trying to get their work done or want to get errands finished by a certain time that day.

If you have a problem you need help with, then they won’t mind if you stop them to talk about it.

It’s also possible that people with sensitive and introverted tendencies feel that they have an unfair burden on others. This is a common reason why people avoid talking about it.

Overwhelmed by energy drain it could take to ask

This is a big one, and it serves as an umbrella under which all the other factors fall. When asking for help, most people tend to feel overwhelmed. This is because asking for help is like asking for energy.

thoughts come into mind and now we have to fight them off, which takes a lot out of us.

Fear of rejection often comes up and is difficult to fight off when asking for help. If you are worried about being belittled or ridiculed, then you may be more reluctant to bring up your concerns to another person.

You might also feel guilty or ashamed because someone has treated you as weak for bringing up your problems. Don’t let one experience define how you live. You have control of your life.

When you feel you don’t have control over something, you feel awkward. Even if its someone asking you for help. These situations are normal and it’s OK to feel this way.

Try your best to help people when you can. It may help you realize something at the same time.

Believe you are supposed to be self-reliant

As an child, I have believed I needed to do everything myself. That can not be farther from the truth.

If I had asked for help more often, I would be further ahead in life than I am now. But there’s no point in looking back so let’s look .

It’s possible you feel that way because of how you were up. Some believe that asking for help shows weakness while others were that you were the man of the house and men don’t ask for help.

We tend to believe that asking for help is a sign of weakness because you cannot do something all by yourself. , if you are receiving something in exchange for nothing, it may feel like a gift.

Which can be a humiliating and condescending act.

Learning that it’s fine to ask for help is the first step. After you feel comfortable, you will begin asking for help more often and grow as a person.

How to ask for help

It’s never easy asking for help but you will thank yourself later for going through this tough time. Make sure the person you confide in is someone you trust and feel comfortable with.

This will make the conversation easier and more relaxing.

Be as specific as possible so this person understands what you are going through. If you do not communicate your issue with them , they will not understand or know how to help you.

We feel like we're putting our troubles on someone else in this moment and begin to apologize for this, but it's not necessary.

When asking for help or explaining what your problem is, you are leaving yourself in a vulnerable state. Never apologize for opening yourself up to others.

Ask for help face to face. Some start by emailing or texting someone, but this may lead the other person to believe your problem can wait till later.

It may also cause you anxiety because you are waiting to see if they are even around their phone or computer.

Having these conversations in person is more personal and will help the other person realize how important this topic is to you.

Final Thoughts

We all have our own problems we have to manage. The way you go about finding solutions to them is what defines you as a person. Some don’t find answers and live with their issues the rest of their lives.

Don’t compare your problems to others, if they are causing you to live a life you are not happy with.

Asking for help is a normal thing and should not be looked at as a weakness. people still do but that is a problem they need to .

Find someone you feel comfortable with and set up a time to meet. Make it somewhere you feel comfortable and have a serious conversation with them.

The more time you spend out of your comfort zone, the stronger you will become. This is one of those times.