If I don't love you, how can I criticize you

Who is the person who criticizes you the most, growing up? It's our parents. What parent doesn't want their children to be successful? Who criticized you the most at school? It's our teacher. What teacher doesn't want his students to be successful in the future? Similarly, those who criticize you today, are also for your own good, think you are still a talent!

Everyone likes to hear affirmation and praise. That's why there is an old saying that "good advice is best when it is unpleasant to the ear." Those who are responsible for you will criticize you; Those who think you are "trainable" will criticize you, those who treat you sincerely will criticize you, and those who are willing to worry about teaching you and helping you improve will criticize you... A good medicine tastes bitter. It's not easy these days to really hear someone say something to you from the bottom of your heart and criticize you for your growth and perfection. So, once someone criticizes you, you must cherish it.

When you say no, once, twice, three times later, no one criticizes you. That's why, when they finally hit the wall, so many people ask, "Why didn't someone tell me earlier?"

In fact, there were a lot of our relatives and friends to remind us, at that time maybe he still thought: "What nonsense ah! It's as simple as anyone doesn't know!" At that time perhaps he had already put himself "closed" up, do not know what just called "arrogant"......

Criticism should have the following meanings: first, criticize, judge and evaluate, pointing out advantages and disadvantages, and commenting on good and bad; Second, it specifically refers to putting forward opinions on shortcomings and mistakes. In the face of criticism, we should be happy, but why do some people resist criticism?

Not happy to hear criticism? The following two points:

One is feeling like you've done exactly the right thing. In fact, there is no perfect person, even if you do a small thing perfectly, but it can never be the most perfect. To understand, there is no best, only better; Moreover, good ideas are often hidden in opposition. Therefore, one should be tolerant of criticism and listen to multiple opinions even if one has done a good job. -- "Listen to both sides."

Second, the fear of face can not pass. Some people think that criticism is a shameful thing, is hurt self-esteem! I think this is a mistake! In fact, whether you accept criticism from others or not has nothing to do with your self-esteem. If really strong, really want to self-esteem, then receive from a variety of voices, can understand the analysis of things from another point of view, and can broaden their knowledge, but also can enhance their judgment!

If you don't correct small mistakes, from small things to big mistakes is a disgrace. Everyone can make mistakes. Nobody ever makes mistakes. It's good to have someone to criticize you.

What would your attitude be to those who criticize and accuse you? Angry? Despise? Or refute? Please don't do this! Because the person who can point out your mistakes is the one you should be grateful for, because he gives you a valuable opportunity to change your shortcomings and improve yourself. Facing criticism head-on gives you the opportunity to admit your failures. Be sincere, that is, demonstrate through words and enthusiasm that you did what you thought was best, and don't defend yourself!

The people who criticize you are the people who care about you. If you are in a hurry to defend yourself every time someone says something bad about you, you will never get anything done.

There are two things you can do when you hear criticism:

First, try your best to do what you should do and prove you are right with facts. Then it doesn't matter what others say. If things really go wrong, it doesn't matter if you spend 10 times as much time and energy defending yourself.

The second is to talk to your critics, listen to their opinions, and maybe you will know where you are wrong. Criticism is not discouraged, the key is to face it, this is to believe in yourself, but also trust in others.

Being criticized is, first of all, a sign of being cared for, showing that you are still very popular and that there are so many people who care about you when things go wrong. Next, can make oneself less detour, faster out of the shadow of life or work, easily to the normal life. Thirdly, it can be regarded as a kind of treatment. The more criticism you receive, the less mistakes you make, the faster you make progress and the faster you grow. At this point, say "Thank you" to your critic.

The man who can tell you your faults bluntly is your magnate! All day in front of you flatter, often blow you to the sky, is often really watching you laugh at the people, do not know yourself, do not dance with it, or you will fall very miserably! Take more classes so that you don't stumble down the road.

The process of accepting criticism is actually the process of people's ideas, the process of changing their world outlook, outlook on life and values, the process of moving from self-denial to new affirmation, and the process of sublimating our thoughts in the baptism. In this process, we learn from mistakes, learn from criticism, gradually mature, towards success. Strict is love, loose is harm. Criticism is a kind of strict, therefore, criticism itself is also a kind of love, but a high level of love.