Fat - embracing "taboo" word

Nowadays we live in the world where the word "fat" is either misused as an offensive comment or not used at all. People are afraid to hurt other's feelings because our minds are set to look at those words as a taboo words. Society made us think that being fat or too skinny is wrong and should be something that we won't talk about.

I say - screw this! It's 2020 and nobody will tell me if I can call myself "fat" or not. It's not an offensive comment or a call for attention. It's not something I want to be offensive or be hurtful. I want people to learn how to embrace what we already know, creating a new meaning for this word.

Why do we use those words in a offensive way? Why it can't be something nice? Questions are growing in my mind every day. As someone who likes to write about stuff that bother people a lot I like to spend my time reflecting on things normal people wouldn't. We're creating those labels and boxes to put people in which makes us think badly about ourselves. Because, I am fat so I can't be anything different, right? You've got it all wrong!

I am going to tell you this right now - labels don't matter. You can label yourself "chubby", a "teddy bear" or even the "hourglass type" but in the end we all know that it's the word "fat" hidden behind it. It makes me wanna scream out loud to the faces of people who are trying to tell me that I'm "plus size". "No, sir, I'm fat" - I say. And I am well aware of it, so don't be afraid to use this word. I own a mirror and look at myself every day - it doesn't mean that I hate what I see. My fat is mine and only mine. So call me fat if you'd like to - I will take it as a compliment!

There's been a lot of controversy around the word "fat". It's not only taboo word never used by fatties but I've heard mothers and fathers teaching their kids that the word "fat" is a bad word and we should never use it in public or, God forbid, in front of fat people.

It got me thinking couple days ago - how "fat" is a bad word but "skinny" is a compliment. When you see a thin person and you say that they look great and that they're so skinny, they smile and thank you for saying that. Now, I am not assuming that skinny people love being called skinny, it's just I've never heard one person saying that "skinny" is a bad word.

Imagine the situation where you and your skinny friend are sitting on a bench and there's a child with their mother calling you "fat" and immediately after you hear a mother say "That's not nice! You shouldn't say that! It's a bad word!". Now, let's do the opposite. Let's say your friend is being called skinny. What do you think mother will do? Will they slap their wrist and say it's a bad word or will they let it slide with a "Yes, the lady is skinny, darling. Let's go now, okay"? Just try to record that conversation in your mind and tell me - do you see it? Do you see how rotten this wold have become?

I'm pretty sick of getting this euphemisms for fat people. Let's think about it. If fat people won't acknowledge that they're fat, are they really accepting themselves? If you stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself that you're not fat, just "chubby", are you really making progress with self-love and confidence? Do you think that hiding behind "plus-size" label will help you become your truest self?

I'm fat and I've been telling myself that since I turned 18. I was avoiding this word like fire and I didn't want people to call me fat because it made me feel bad about myself - and that's where the problem is. Fat people don't have the privilege to treat the word "fat" as a compliment in this world. It's been always something that people would avoid and not talk about rather than face it. And I want it to change. I want people to treat this word as a compliment very badly.

Now, I don't want you, the reader, to take that as an attack of what you feel and how you are calling yourself right now. You can live with whatever it's comfortable for you - chubby? Plus-size? Teddy? I am all here for it. And it's okay if you don't want to use the word "fat" to describe yourself. Maybe it's because you've heard it too many times in your life you developed such hate for it you just can't use it. And I understand. I really do. I used to hate it too. But maybe give it a chance? Maybe just try to accept it. It's not a bad word. It's not an offensive comment. It's not something you should be afraid of. So try to tell yourself that and let's try to live our best life!