A Pleasure

First: Allow me to qualify myself with one statement.

‘I’ve been single and sexless since February of 2008. Today is February of 2021.’

Ok. That can be considered two statements, but I assure you I am living through what the best yogi’s practice. …Abstinence. Maybe this is because I am naturally shy. …Or maybe not. It’s all the same. I know I consider myself to be a seeker, a YOGI; of sorts. This will not be an article about the pleasures of sex. This is a notice. This is a 'CALL TO ACTION' that there is something out there that satisfies the mind and the body more than physical stimulation. Let's dive in.

There are several ways someone can bring themselves to “pleasure”. However; there is one pleasure to rule them all. It’s a pleasure so blissful that pleasures of the body do not compare. In this article, I’m speaking about the Pineal gland. I want to bring clarity to the pineal gland. It’s been an object of mystery and confusion for many seekers. I’ve written about it extensively in my novel series INEFFABLE. Allow me to explain how yogic processes are designed to activate the pineal gland, which can create a sense of ecstasy and pleasure beyond anything a person would otherwise know.

The secretions of the pineal gland is referred to as ‘Amruta’ in the yogic terminology). This is because once it begins its secretion everything about you becomes sweet and beautiful. It is not the sexuality which limits it, but it’s the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it. If you make it too big, you will become perverted in your head. If you try to obliterate it, you will become even more perverted in your mind.

A ninety-two year old man went to his doctor for a full medical checkup. The doctor checked him up and he said,

“Hey old boy? For your age, you’re doing great. Everything is just fine with you.”

“But doctor, what about my sex life?” the man asked.

“Thinking about it, or dreaming about it?” the doctor asked.

The more you try not to think about something, the more you will think about it. This is the nature of the mind. So there are many reasons why one indulges in sex. For some, it is just pleasure. For some, it is a way of building this bond and companionship; otherwise, people feel they are going away from each other. They may be just fine, but a lot of people it is psyched in their mind that if they are not sexually involved they are actually moving away. Not true. You can be very close to somebody and need not be involved in any physical manner, isn't it? More and more societies are “psyching” this way.

Especially in India, people are hugely psyched. If there is no sexuality, you don’t really have a relationship. Is this true? In fact, the word relationship -it took me sometime to understand that here if you say a ‘relationship’ you are supposed to understand it is sex-based relationship. Nothing else is a relationship. If I can have a very strong relationship with you and not be concerned about sex, isn't it still a relationship? I may not be drawn to your body in anyway, but I can have a very powerful relationship with you. But all those possibilities are completely discounted. A relationship means you must be in some way physically involved this goes for man-man, woman-woman, whatever you like. Essentially it’s body-based. What kind of body differs, but essentially it is body-based. This has happened because somewhere our identification with the body has gone beyond normal levels of identity. It is excessive identification with the body. That is why body-based relationships have become the crux of the society. One who is too identified with your physical body is naturally sex-driven. This is because that is the highest thing that he knows.

THE BIGGER PROPOSITION

There are ways spirituality can help you realize something which is far bigger than this. Once you taste something better, I don’t have to tell you ‘give this up’ or ‘give that up’. It’ll anyway fall off, isn’t this true? There are ways to do certain sadhana which is more intense than sexuality, which is more ecstatic than sexuality. On one level (if you look at it) all dimensions of yoga, (one way or the other) are ultimately trying to activate the pineal because once it begins, its secretion –everything about you— becomes sweet and beautiful. It creates a whole inner pleasure which makes all the outer pleasures look like kindergarten stuff. That’s the reason yogis are just sitting with eyes closed. Not because they are against pleasure, they are against small pleasures. That’s all.

So the Shambhavi… One thing that’s happening is, it stimulates the pineal secretion in a big way. It does this in a way that leaves you drenched in a certain level of sweetness throughout the day. It just leaves you in a certain state of ecstasy and blissfulness because the pineal gland is active. This is one aspect of your physiology which is very close to your consciousness. The rest of the physiology is about survival. The pineal gland is one aspect of your physiology which is very, very close to transcending the physical. In the yogic traditions, this sweetness is referred to as ‘amruta’ or the ‘ambrosia’ or the ‘elixir of life’. One drop if it comes into the system, suddenly the whole system just cools down. The whole system is lubricated and functions at ease. The desperation in the system is gone. The desperation in the mind is gone. So, ambrosia means you found your own pleasure. If you’re extremely joyful within yourself, you’ve found the amrutha within yourself… You are in extreme state of pleasantness. It’s about being with people, not squeezing pleasure out of them anymore. Being with people becomes the joy of just being with them. Only activating your pineal gland are you truly capable of love. Otherwise it‘s just a ‘Open Sesame’ trick. ‘I love you’ means whether believe you or not. For that moment, they make themselves believe you because they are also in need of something. You are also in need of something. Does this resonate with you as you’re reading this?

I am not saying it`s right or wrong. That’s the way most people conduct their love for each other. There’s nothing to it. But by doing this, the true possibility of knowing an intense sense of love within you is lost. You are here constantly looking, ‘What can I get out of this person? What can I get out of that person?’ This is kind of like a con job. It’s called a love affair, but it’s a con job. But if you are extremely ecstatic by yourself; when you are being with people, it’s about sharing your ecstasy. It is about somehow touching them with it if they are not touched by it on their own. This is opposed to just seeing what you can squeeze out of them. The whole fundamentals of your life will change.

Does Sexual Indulgence Restrict The Secretion of Amrutha?

Yes and no, in the sense, it is not the sexuality which limits it, but it’s the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it. So, it is not sexuality (per se) which becomes the barrier, but the attachment it creates—to the physicality. This becomes the barrier. This question is coming from a certain amount of bits and pieces. With the gossip that you have heard about, could you assimilate your own semen and raise it up to your higher possibility; yes, it is true. At the same time, it is not because of abstinence that one does it. It is because of internalizing your energies that you do it. It is not simply that somebody is abstaining from sex and suddenly his energies are all organized and it’s going up. It’s not true. If your energies get organized and begin to move up, the need for sexuality may evaporate for you, but it doesn’t leave you incapable. It doesn’t leave you impotent, but the need is gone. It’s just that it’s no longer a compulsive thing. And it is not just this one thing, all compulsiveness is lost.

Essentially, most of the sexuality that’s happening on the planet is happening because of certain compulsiveness. Would you agree with this? It’s a compulsive drive. When you become conscious, when all compulsiveness disappears, this also disappears. It’s so true that people have become so body-oriented, they’re always thinking in terms of spirituality versus sexuality. These constructs are not connected. One is of the body; another is of a different dimension. People are so… (…because religions of the world, moral schools and the ethical schools have been always speaking against it), it has become such a big issue in people’s minds. They think the only way to know something that is ‘beyond’, is by being away from sex. You either have to celebrate it or you have to push it down the drain - both are not needed. You can look at it for the limitation that it is and for the possibility that it is. So, if because of the impurity of sex, your spirituality is going to get disturbed. By this theory, I want you to know that your very birth is impure. When you come from such an impure birth, where is the possibility for you? There is no possibility for you. Only if you fell from somewhere else - if the stork dropped you - there is some possibility of you becoming spiritual. If your mother had a normal birth, you have no possibility.

A six-year-old girl came home one day from school.

“Mama, how was I born?” she asks.

The mother was embarrassed.

“A stork dropped you.” she replied.

“Okay.” the child begun noting some things on paper.

“Mama, how were you born?”

“A stork dropped me too.” Momma replied.

“Mama, how was Grandmama born?”

“A stork dropped her, too.”

Then the girl became serious. She sat down and started writing something in her homework.

Then the mother was feeling uncomfortable. She finished her cooking. The girl had finished her homework and left the book there. Mom begins reading what daughter wrote. So, the essay was about the family tree. So, the girl had written,

[“For three generations in my family, nobody had a natural birth.”]

What does this illustrate? So, because of absurd ideas, either we exaggerate something or we try to unnecessarily play it down. It has a certain role in your life. If you make it too big, you will become perverted in your head. If you try to obliterate it, you will become even more perverted in your mind. After all, now I am writing - this is a kind of energy. You are reading my words - this is a kind of energy. These are different expressions of the same life energy, isn't it? Sexuality is also another expression of the same energy. Someone has to decide how much of his energy, in which direction, he wants to send it. This is because you are a limited amount of energy. Is this true? See, it’s just like, you have an income… Let’s say you have $5,000 a month, how much for the house rent, how much for eating, how much for schooling, how much just for fun, how much for vacation - you apportion, isn't it? Tomorrow morning, you got your salary; in the evening, you went out and blew it up. Now the next month is going to be trouble, isn't it? Of course you have a credit card, but… Everything in your life… If you are handling your life sensibly, everything in your life is apportioned according to your understanding, your need and your capability. Isn't it so? Yes? Your money, time, energy, isn’t everything allotted, the way you like to arrange it? This is also the same thing - how much of it? First of all, do you need it? Or are you doing it because of socially you are psyched? If there is a need, if I ask you to stop it, you will become perverted, because it will all happen in your head. If somebody is telling you, ‘You have to do it! If you don’t do it, you are not normal’. Another kind of perversion will come. Both are not needed. After all, you are not going after a man or woman. You are going after a certain level of pleasantness. So, once you experience a certain level of pleasantness, wouldn’t you like to dig deeper into this? Because... whatever pleasantness happened - maybe you used the other person, but the pleasantness happened within you, right? So, suppose anyway the pleasantness is happening within you, the other person is just a key to open this. Wouldn’t you like to have the key in your own hands? Yes? That if you sit like this, you are on full scale. You don’t need anybody… No. See, anything… anything in your life, either for pleasure, money, love, this, that, it doesn’t matter what, for whatever, the moment you become dependent on another person, nobody on this planet is truly reliable, isn't it?

I keep hearing these complaints all over. Some people, generally woman keep complaining their husbands are excessively physical. Other woman constantly complaining, ‘He doesn’t lay a finger upon me’. Either the case, it becomes a big problem because it never happens exactly the way they want it. As long as another person is involved, nothing will ever happen 100% the way you want it. Would you agree with this? Yes or no? It never will. It doesn’t matter if you get married to a God, it still won’t happen ideally. As long as your way of being, your sense of pleasure and joy, is dependent on another person, you will always have a complaint. It doesn’t matter how wonderful the other person is. So, in this context people might have talked about celibacy because, they said, take some time off because, to extract pleasure out of somebody. You have to play any number of tricks. It doesn't happen naturally. This is called as courting. Once you go to the court, the judgment day will come. It takes an enormous amount of time, effort, energy and all kind of other things such as frustrations, jealousy, problems and everything attached to it. So somebody said take time off those things and see if this could be internally generated. Now; being with people will become more out of your love than out of your need which is definitely a better way to be with people. This is a much better way of honoring another human being. Give this a little more attention instead of paying attention to that one, and that one, and that one. I’ve circled around several matters to come this simple conclusion.

Give the expansion of your consciousness more attention than your need for physical pleasure. I guarantee you, it will produce much more stimulation, bliss and pleasure than anything someone else can produce this for you.

In conclusion, I wish all seekers to find the purest pleasures of this world. BLISS. The pleasure to rule them all.

I am Sri RA’brt El (Robert Lee Laster) …author of the ground-breaking INEFFABLE novel series. - FICTION/VISIONARY/WOMENS

...see you next time.