6 Ways to Make Your sex Connection

About 80 percent of women who have been married for more than seven years have the same complaint -- "His enthusiasm and curiosity for me in bed seem to have disappeared." "Sex is like a routine." "Is it because you are so familiar that you must be indifferent?" "Every time I watch him go to sleep contentedly, I feel as if I have been wronged and depressed." "It's so hard to be mentally as well as physically satisfied."

Although there is a saying that women are "thirty wolves and forty tigers", in fact, many women of this age are suffering from a boring life in bed.

So, does he really not love you, or do you have no feelings for him? Did you misunderstand him or did he misunderstand you?

Analysis of the

A. He doesn't ask, I don't tell

Many couples are not as passionate about communicating and exchanging feelings as fashion magazines portray.

The opposite is true. Women, in particular, are reluctant to even think about and evaluate their sex lives in terms of exchange. This is the root of the misunderstanding between partners because the more, the more it is not easy to recognize each other for their devotion to the corresponding returns, will be impossible to one of the most common mistakes is that he has really put a lot of effort, to win the favor of you, to coordinate your sex life, and because you have no communication, he can't definitely, You can't feel exactly. The misunderstanding was profound. Of course, sexual devotion and reciprocation between partners are usually unspoken and rarely spoken in words. But this "exchange" does exist, and precisely because the person making the offer doesn't say so, it's easier for the other person to ignore it, to unintentionally break the other person's heart.

B. He wants to, I don't

Couples differ in their psychological timing for selective living. One partner may feel it's a natural time to have sex, but the other feels it's a price to pay. If the former does not understand and understand this and does not reciprocate in other ways or in other ways, the latter will feel that they are losing, or even being forced or exploited. Over time, every little shadow accumulates, the feelings are easy to be cooled, and the feelings of cooling, which directly leads to the weakening of women's sexual requirements, this is a vicious circle. When two people are just together, two people with fresh and curious about each other, and these small psychological differences are easy to ignore and overcome, once into a stable situation, all kinds of small flaws in sex life are easy to show.

C. He's busy, I'm busier still

With a regular partner, a man is more likely to focus on his career, work and social activities will take up most of his time. Career women, however, have to worry about their children and family after they have been separated by work and social activities. The quality and quantity of sex are not guaranteed, sex experts said after the survey: the lack of uninterrupted non-sleep time between professional couples to sleep together seriously affects the quality of their sex life and relationship. Repair plan

1. Explore overlooked sexual opportunities

If you have 10 minutes available, try to have a quick sex session. It may sound like ridiculous advice, but it's not fun until you try it. Sometimes, rushing through sex isn't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, many couples appreciate the thrill of rushing through sex, which can create a feeling that it's just a couple's secret.

2. Touch each other often

Couples rarely touch each other lovingly, apart from sex, according to a survey. They may feel uncomfortable about it, and touching each other often is the best way to overcome emotional barriers. Make sure you get into the habit of touching your partner, such as holding his hand while watching a movie, brushing his upper arm up and down with your fingers while watching TV, and exchanging kisses from time to time. Don't send your partner the "Don't come near me" message too often. Even if he smashes the lipstick you just put on when he kisses you in the morning, reapplying your makeup is obviously trivial compared to getting the signal that his feelings for you are unchanged.

3. What do you want from him

Don't let him act like a laborer in bed trying to please you. If you want him to stay somewhere, say so. When he meets your requirements, you should let him know. If he doesn't do something right, don't accuse him of it. Put it in a softer way, saying you prefer this or that.

4. Expand your sex space

The bed shouldn't be the only place you two have sex. When you are excited at home, but on the way to the bedroom, there are always a lot of things to distract you, and soon lose energy. Experts point out that if you want to enjoy more and better sexual pleasure, be provoked when the desire to act immediately. The dining room, the carpet, the sofa... Can be a great place for you to have fun.5. Try new ways

Of course, the same way of sex is extremely boring, if you dare to try, you can achieve unexpected results. These experiments can be easily obtained from relevant books, don't worry about your imagination.

6. Plan a sex trip

Plan a trip with him that you've never tried before and that's the most arousing itinerary you can take to make you feel as intimate as your first lover.

It is clear to everyone that neither men nor women can go into a shared sexual life without giving, and without expecting anything in return. Assume that two people invest in a partnership, of course, no one wants to be in a partnership is always losing out, let alone long-term tolerance of the other party always taking advantage. It's as simple as that.